tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post115681118917639245..comments2023-11-02T07:53:45.876-07:00Comments on Girl's Gone Child: On Unplanned Pregnancy, For a FriendGIRL'S GONE CHILDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07130764109593048451noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-40472707475960455732012-08-03T23:11:33.921-07:002012-08-03T23:11:33.921-07:00So I know this is an old blog post but thank you f...So I know this is an old blog post but thank you for posting this, my friend is going through the same thing and me being married I could not find the right advise to tell her she is at the stage where she is terrified and I understand, I found out I was pregnant with my second Child last year and I was in total denial I did not want it I thought I wasn't ready, but weather I was ready or not he was coming I hate to say this but I was not excited one bit about until the day I had him when he came out and I looked into his cubby little face I fell instantly in love and now 4 months later I can't believe I felt that way about the pregnancy thank you for your words I hope this helps herAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-68939583446670189152012-07-09T12:33:04.815-07:002012-07-09T12:33:04.815-07:00I had an unexpected pregnancy too and much like yo...I had an unexpected pregnancy too and much like you were I was angry and terrified. My son is 1 year old now (much younger than Archer) and it's amazing how something you didn't plan or except can seem like it was always meant to be. I literally cannot IMAGINE my life without A now! Literally cannot imagine! I've been blogging about my unexpected pregnancy as well: www.theunexpectedpregnancy.com. Would love to have you stop by and let me know what you think!The Unexpected Pregnancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01189892736986438489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-29936045722115269902012-03-01T17:04:57.831-08:002012-03-01T17:04:57.831-08:00Thank you so much for these perfect words to help ...Thank you so much for these perfect words to help me help my friend through one of the hardest moments in life! I am forever grateful for your openness and for posting this. What an amazing way to tell someone you love them!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-34665404258532787502011-05-23T00:57:52.306-07:002011-05-23T00:57:52.306-07:00Thank you so much for writing this letter. I saw t...Thank you so much for writing this letter. I saw those two lines today and am in a state of utter confusion. <br /><br />I am 23 year old graduate student that feels completely unprepared to made the biggest decision of my life. The father is a guy that I have been casually dating for a little while, and he lives 12 hours away. <br /><br />My initial feeling was fear and thought was that I would not keep it. But my mind has changed so many times in the past 12 hours.<br /> <br />Thank you for helping me to feel not so alone.PennyLanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-28976909422357002332011-03-06T23:58:51.782-08:002011-03-06T23:58:51.782-08:00SO it's been four years since you wrote this, ...SO it's been four years since you wrote this, but I needed it tonight. I wrote a bit of the story here: http://meandthepoppyseed.blogspot.com/2011/03/hormonal-horrors.html<br /><br />but the short version is, your words lifted a burden from my heart, and I'm looking forward with hope :)poppies.mommiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18218631124184701827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-19735793371859311972010-04-14T10:11:01.424-07:002010-04-14T10:11:01.424-07:00I understand that this is quite in the past and do...I understand that this is quite in the past and don't know if you'll even get it now, but thank you so much. I recently found your blog when searching for whether I should have my two children room together or separate. I loved that post and decided to start at the very beginning. I am so glad I found your blog, I feel like you're my new friend and I just wanted to say thanks. I can't wait to catch up on the rest of the 4 years ahead that I haven't read yet.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06165277626479104936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-29357118994108352222009-03-22T09:13:00.000-07:002009-03-22T09:13:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for this. Im just 15 and one of ...Thank you so much for this. Im just 15 and one of my best friends whos 16 just found just found out she pregnant. I had no idea what she must have been going throught or how to console her i was pretty much at a loss for words. Now i kind of understand a little better and i think i can try to help. I am so thankful that i read this and thanks so much for posting all those comments. Everyone says everything will be okay, but nothing is better then the experiences of others. Thanks a bunch.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-52552761195381607392009-01-23T09:17:00.000-08:002009-01-23T09:17:00.000-08:00that hubband comment killed me!so sweet!im so happ...that hubband comment killed me!<BR/>so sweet!<BR/>im so happy it turned out well for the two of you :)Marissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08190022770781569527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-14387869352673770452008-07-24T13:35:00.000-07:002008-07-24T13:35:00.000-07:00That was beautiful - thanks for sharing. I found m...That was beautiful - thanks for sharing. I found myself searching for ways to console a friend with nearly adult children who found herself to be unexpectedly pregnant. Your response I feel reminds us that it's normal to go through a gumt of emotions (from rage to confusion, fear, acceptance). In all, it's a most personal experience and decision for every woman. <BR/><BR/>I recall a couple of years back when I had an unexpected pregnancy. It had to have been the most transformative and inwardly spiritual experience. I ultimately discovered that the being growing within me was compassionate and understanding, and decided to take it's little soul back to it's origin to wait until I'm ready for him/her. I accepted my decision and made peace with it, knowing that later our time would come to make 2 from 1, singular to plural, 'me' to 'we.' <BR/><BR/>I respect any woman's decision and hope that whatever she decides, that it is her decision and that she can rest assured in peace with that decision. With all the external pressures and influences, I held a quote from a dear friend that "love has no order."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-39232965873340198342007-06-06T20:31:00.000-07:002007-06-06T20:31:00.000-07:00GGC-I read this post several months ago and rememb...GGC-<BR/><BR/>I read this post several months ago and remembered it yesterday when I got the call that my pregnancy test came back positive. It was just a confirmation of the at-home test I had done the night before. I had already hyperventilated, cried, and repeated over and over "I can't do this" as my husband held onto me. We've been married for 5 years and I have thought long and hard about whether having a child is for me, for us. Amazingly, the decision was made for me in a moment when I thought I was "safe". I'm still in shock, quietly going through the motions.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for posting this. It was helpful in all the craziness of this moment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-19978413035781700482007-05-09T20:21:00.000-07:002007-05-09T20:21:00.000-07:00Thank you!!!,Like so many others have said, your w...Thank you!!!,<BR/>Like so many others have said, your words were just what I needed to hear tonight. I've just realized that I am pregnant with my third and am in shock. Your words spoke to my heart. I can't even get myself to talk about it with my husband yet, and I truely wish that I had a close girl friend to turn to like you did for your friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1167428189114162582006-12-29T13:36:00.000-08:002006-12-29T13:36:00.000-08:00so happy to stumble upon you letter. i had my bab...so happy to stumble upon you letter. i had my baby boy seven months ago, but still find myself confused and regretful. the world is a different tint like you speak of. i love my son dearly, but i can't help but still mourn my innocence and youth. i'm afraid i wont ever be happy again like i was before getting preganant. i really didn't speak to anyone throughout the whole pregancy out of shame. now, i am in a marriage i'm not sure about and again i find myself with nobady to speak to. my biggest fear is looking back on life with regret.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1157776738551737442006-09-08T21:38:00.000-07:002006-09-08T21:38:00.000-07:00Thank you for this. It helps me more than you know...Thank you for this. It helps me more than you know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1157574224005866312006-09-06T13:23:00.000-07:002006-09-06T13:23:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing the letter to your friend. ...Thank you for sharing the letter to your friend. Definitely a tear jerker (and your hubby's comment? what a keeper!). This pregnancy/motherhood thing is definitely life altering and sometimes scary, but as I think most of us can attest - it is so very, very worth it. What's that sappy saying about your child is like your heart walking outside of your body?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1157158312949176682006-09-01T17:51:00.000-07:002006-09-01T17:51:00.000-07:00It IS scary. I planned mine with great care, took ...It IS scary. I planned mine with great care, took folic acid for a year ahead and maternity vitamins for 3 months ahead, had finish my degrees and was five years into a stable career, had been married for years, and I still panicked. I was afraid, and as the end of the first trimester loomed, I one day thought to myself this was my last chance to bail on this and go back to how it was. Panic. I think it's a natural reaction to such a massive change, and a positive sign that she understand the magnitude of it as she makes her choices. <BR/><BR/>And I add - she's lucky to hve such a good friend for support.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1157072363147604782006-08-31T17:59:00.000-07:002006-08-31T17:59:00.000-07:00Your posts are always so inspiring. I'm so glad I ...Your posts are always so inspiring. I'm so glad I found you.BabyonBoredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05988664515214410933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1157044650134738592006-08-31T10:17:00.000-07:002006-08-31T10:17:00.000-07:00Wow. Just...wow.I was 16 when I had my son and I ...Wow. Just...wow.<BR/><BR/>I was 16 when I had my son and I go back to my high school every prom season to discuss how I felt about it, what options I considered and how I dealt with it all. <BR/><BR/>Now he's 16. Gulp.<BR/><BR/>This is perhaps the most powerful post I've ever read on such an important moment. Thanks.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11464465779161315273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1157003597142901692006-08-30T22:53:00.000-07:002006-08-30T22:53:00.000-07:00What a beautiful post and what a good friend. Tha...What a beautiful post and what a good friend. Thanks for sharing your words and your perspective.Kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975310695500323217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1157001724058380042006-08-30T22:22:00.000-07:002006-08-30T22:22:00.000-07:00Beautiful. I can't think of another word to add, b...Beautiful. I can't think of another word to add, but that.Cristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07245436504933052526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1156999351082610812006-08-30T21:42:00.000-07:002006-08-30T21:42:00.000-07:00W IS for WOW.WWWWWW IS for WOW.<BR/>W<BR/>W<BR/>W<BR/>W<BR/>WMs. Smoochyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12465535795885692973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1156982420011179442006-08-30T17:00:00.000-07:002006-08-30T17:00:00.000-07:00omg. just keep talking bec, don't ever stop.omg. just keep talking bec, don't ever stop.BITE MY COOKIEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10861685660549332518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1156975017182782422006-08-30T14:56:00.000-07:002006-08-30T14:56:00.000-07:00Thank you for this. I was in that same place 16 mo...Thank you for this. I was in that same place 16 months ago.<BR/><BR/>I never could have said everything I felt as well as you have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1156970501127598662006-08-30T13:41:00.000-07:002006-08-30T13:41:00.000-07:00Beautiful, eloquent, heartwrenching, HOPEFUL. Than...Beautiful, eloquent, heartwrenching, HOPEFUL. <BR/><BR/>Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1156965698106146192006-08-30T12:21:00.000-07:002006-08-30T12:21:00.000-07:00Thank you for your honesty and amazing words. Your...Thank you for your honesty and amazing words. Your post is still spinning in my head. My older sister and my dear husband are the results of unplanned pregnancies. NowI feel like I understand my mother in law and Mama a bit more. Thank you again for the insight.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-1156960043095028102006-08-30T10:47:00.000-07:002006-08-30T10:47:00.000-07:00This is a great post, and a thought provoking one....This is a great post, and a thought provoking one. As I am still thinking about it, I must reserve the right to comment at a later date. But, in the meantime, I wanted you to know it is still in my head.Binkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17161541480469324280noreply@blogger.com