tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post2125370816489564081..comments2023-11-02T07:53:45.876-07:00Comments on Girl's Gone Child: Mom GenesGIRL'S GONE CHILDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07130764109593048451noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-61967084991702254732009-09-05T14:29:28.850-07:002009-09-05T14:29:28.850-07:00I need to go shopping because I've obviously g...I need to go shopping because I've obviously gained weight and now my pre-baby clothes don't fit comfortably, I mean I can force myself into them but at what cost? For my rolls to roll out the top? heh. <br /><br />But once I get some more money coming in I fully intend on dressing like I did before I got pregnant. When I'm at home and lazy, I were sweats and a tshirt...just like I did before becoming a mom.<br /><br />I used to think mom's had to dress in faded purple flower shirts and black jeans (ewwww), but I SO will never buy black jeans or a purple flower shirt. ;)Sarcasticahttp://sarcastica.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-18034667273797861592009-08-25T08:18:13.366-07:002009-08-25T08:18:13.366-07:00I was never a clothes horse, but I liked to wear t...I was never a clothes horse, but I liked to wear things that flattered me. And I worked in a relatively casual office, so jeans, slacks, low heels, fitted tees, that was more or less how I dressed.<br /><br />Now I've had three kids, all by C-section (I was lamenting the state of my belly this morning!), and I stay at home. There was a day not long ago when I was running late, feeling crabby, and saw a pair of workout pants and thought I'd just throw those on. They're comfortable, and really, who cares what I look like? I'm home with small children all day. Fortunately that thought was kind of a wake-up call for me; I realized that if I start letting go, I may never stop.<br /><br />So though I'm not as put together now as I was pre-kids (in terms of my wardrobe or my body), I try to work harder to make sure I'm not letting go. Maybe for some moms, "mom jeans" would be a choice driven by comfort, practicality, even looks. But for me, it would be sheer laziness, and I'm trying hard not to head down that path.Kendrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15226660244598032307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-72912225589013563152009-08-19T09:09:58.626-07:002009-08-19T09:09:58.626-07:00Years ago, I used to take more time with my fashio...Years ago, I used to take more time with my fashion, and then had gotten a little lazy. Pegged jeans and some band t-shirts, flip flops, etc.-- that was kind of my daily uniform. Then, when I got pregnant-- and now after I've had my son (he's 18 months)-- I pay way more attention to how I look. It's important to me that people see that some of us that like to cut up our shirts on occasion, and have tattoos, are moms, and good ones. I felt the need to represent a little, I guess.Summertimenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-85929279040990503952009-08-19T07:08:30.094-07:002009-08-19T07:08:30.094-07:00The only thing that changed about my style after b...The only thing that changed about my style after becoming a Mom was the size. <br />I was not going to modify my style for some weird view of how a Mom should dress. <br /><br />I certainly don't want my kids to think they have to conform their styles for anyone else, based on my trying to fit into a stereotype.Catooteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18243965613106099628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-88132055510299509882009-08-19T05:52:30.995-07:002009-08-19T05:52:30.995-07:00When I first had my kids I stayed pretty much the ...When I first had my kids I stayed pretty much the same: T's and tanks, lower jeans and shorter shorts. The kids always got a kick out of my printed T's featuring some adolescent cartoony thing. They're young, it works. But now that I have step-kids, specifically a step-daughter who is in her early teens, I've noticed I watch more what I wear. There is something about trying to be a parent type to someone whom you totally envy their wardrobe that doesn't mesh well with me. And the short shorts and low cut shirts around them (teen boy and girl) just seems somehow wrong. It's uncomfortable for them and uncomfortable for me. I just wonder if I would have felt the same way over years of my own kids growing up.writebritehttp://writebrite.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-37114091009928920752009-08-18T22:33:45.651-07:002009-08-18T22:33:45.651-07:00I dress the exact same way I did before I had my s...I dress the exact same way I did before I had my son. It's part of my identity. I would never change that about myself. By the way..you have great style :) Fable is already following in her mom's footsteps.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-75371017676540830812009-08-18T21:26:30.776-07:002009-08-18T21:26:30.776-07:00Great blog, I really enjoy what you do. I think th...Great blog, I really enjoy what you do. I think the whole dressing like a Playboy bunny/sex worker = grrrrl power concept a complete crock. Female power doesn't come from getting your "girls" out or constantly reminding eveyone around you of your sexual attributes/availability/adventurousness. I think personal style and dressing for your own pleasure and in things that seem cool and comfortable to you is extremely important - and a lesson we should be teaching our kids. I don't think it's ok for women to sexualise themselves through their wardrobe for attention or affirmation from men, society, whoever - or teach their daughters to do so. My goal is to model for my absolutely gorgeous little girl how to be feel comfortable and attractive in her clothes without making herself look like she wants to be propositioned for sex. And that our true female power comes from within us, not our T & A or what we package them in.Fabiennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14313882567470471357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-13924970431502240842009-08-18T14:08:56.630-07:002009-08-18T14:08:56.630-07:00Rebecca,
You've definitely come to mind when I...Rebecca,<br />You've definitely come to mind when I want to go a few days justifying the unwashed hair and flip flops. Seeing another young mom who looks so stylish without making it look really difficult has been an encouragement to put a little more effort into it.<br /><br />Having a boy, I never worried about him looking cuter than me but with a girl on the way, I'm starting to think about stepping up the wardrobe a little!RachelDenbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14685607684409546503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-33763618955288725542009-08-17T23:09:13.860-07:002009-08-17T23:09:13.860-07:00I'm a bit late in posting but I felt the want/...I'm a bit late in posting but I felt the want/need to because I think about this a lot. I see a lot of moms dressed like.. well... a mom. And I don't feel like I do, nor do I want to dress like that myself. My style hasn't changed. Jeans that make my butt look good (as good as it can get) and a slightly fitted t-shirt that shows curves but not too much cleavage or the extra flab I have yet to lose. Plus a pair of cute flats that I can easily run after kids in but still look good doing it. I like to look good but I have never been one to overdo it. I have become more conservative over the years, not wanting to show as much cleavage but that's just me and has had nothing to do with becoming a mom. <br /><br />I don't understand why one needs to change ones style when a baby is born. Maybe tone it down a little like the mom you spoke of but otherwise, wear what you want!Cave Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02446689918377947144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-9393052570410642462009-08-17T21:38:32.110-07:002009-08-17T21:38:32.110-07:00comments are closed on the sk8 punk post but i jus...comments are closed on the sk8 punk post but i just wanted to let you know: me too. also bikers, whatev. had a kid with one of those, organ donor so to speak. she's 17, he's been always gone, she's strait edge. her and her friends make fun of the druggies, she can't stand the smell of smoke..m okay? archer will never.<br /><br />my dad died when i was 6. i remeber my mom showed up to one pta function after that, scarfed up with the beatnik sweater and the flowy slacks that looked like a skirt, i thought she was bitchin camaro man. but she never went back.<br />i never had to ask why...those other women didn't want a widowed, young, hella woman around. they labled her "fast", "on the make". she didn't want a man. she died alone, no friends, never could get back in. i dunno, i just needed to share that with you, i feel like you get what i'm sayin.Alyxherselfnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-32391264269331580152009-08-17T18:19:34.949-07:002009-08-17T18:19:34.949-07:00I know I'm a bit late to the discussion, but y...I know I'm a bit late to the discussion, but your post reminds me of that song about the "Harper Valley PTA" that I LOVE (older song about a mom in miniskirts and showing cleavage tells off the PTA for all their indiscretions). <br /><br />I'm going to become a mom in February, and I'm kind of afraid of what my wardrobe might look like (not that it's that great anyway). My sisters are great examples, though - they all have kids and they look fabulous all the time. Hopefully they'll have some good advice. ;-)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09963064478685341998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-45977500120027593692009-08-17T14:52:07.676-07:002009-08-17T14:52:07.676-07:00I had Joey at 24 and was very aware about how I lo...I had Joey at 24 and was very aware about how I looked pregnant. I didn't want to look like a "mom" right, now. But I've very petite and curvy, and when I put on my little shorts I think, hmmm...to short? So I find myself wearing longer shorts than freak when people tell me I look like my mom! Who is only 20 years older! <br /><br />I think we make the pressure on ourselves. I wish I could go to he park in a cute dress and heels. but damn, bring on the flip flops, jeans and t-shirts!http://leball.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-11184627832906689422009-08-17T10:56:22.791-07:002009-08-17T10:56:22.791-07:00this is something i'm struggling with now. i&#...this is something i'm struggling with now. i'm pregnant with my first and i'm completely distressed at how unflattering most maternity clothes are. hello, my cleavage is BANGIN' at the moment and while i'm not throwing it in anyone's face i also don't think i need to hide it under the frigging peter pan collars i see on everything. i feel like anything that is remotely stylish is also crazy expensive. add that to the fact that i'm really uncomfortable in anything other than sweatpants and, well, i'm not exactly having a fashionable pregnancy so far.<br /><br />i'm hoping that i can go back to my regular style after the baby is born, but i guess a lot of it depends on how much of the baby weight i can lose and what shape my body is in. but my style tends to be bohemian-chic, flowy sleeves and empire waists and that type of stuff so it's not like i have to sausage myself into skintight jeans anytime soon. but i actually LOVE to see young hip mamas on the street with their babes in tow, rockin' out some really nice clothes whether it's super high heels or silk blouses or low slung hipster jeans. power to the mama!makyonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-3934555732636653912009-08-17T06:53:27.952-07:002009-08-17T06:53:27.952-07:00I have always dressed like I stepped out of a pin ...I have always dressed like I stepped out of a pin up calendar or an ad for 50's Chanel... Being 8months pregnant has altered how I dress significantly, only because pencil skirts and heels are just not practical when you're a whale.<br />However, I expect to essentially go back to my original wardrobe post-pregnancy... although I may wear flats a little more often and add in a few things that I can nurse in.<br />But, then again, through most of my childhood, I had a mother that generally seemed to exude a personal style of her own (She too was a retired playmate who married a retired rocker and moved us 'Green Acres' style out on to a farm...). So, my Mother never fit in with the other farm wives and I know my Grandmother and Greatgrandmother still make a significant effort to be stylish, while not looking like they're trying to be 20.Jena Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00995997443609728322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-87941875686683429372009-08-17T05:55:01.693-07:002009-08-17T05:55:01.693-07:00My mom always had the big hair, shoulder pads, fri...My mom always had the big hair, shoulder pads, frighteningly pleated skirts, and the sunglasses. Sunglasses permanently attached to her face. More than anything those sunnglasses embarassed me! And guess what? My sunglasses remain permanently glued to my face. <br /><br />I will admit that I dress differently than I did before kids. That might have to do with the distinct lack of money to buy clothing though, more than anything to do with my figure. I think I dress better. I slobed it up in oversized black t-shirts with political statements, old blue jeans, and hooded sweatshirts every single day for years. My wardrobe has a touch more style, and definitely more variety now. No "mom jeans", no button down shirts with 3/4 length sleeves in "girly" colors, although I've been known to rock a pair of kahki capris on occassion.Sabrina K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15051947100082677760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-21302087970079992152009-08-16T21:31:19.679-07:002009-08-16T21:31:19.679-07:00I was thinking outloud to myself the other day in ...I was thinking outloud to myself the other day in Tar-jay.. if they were really, REALLY smart, now that I have even less time than I did before, they would make really awesome clothes available so I can shop while I pick up tampons, deoderant, and onesies. <br /><br />Unfortunatley a little of my wardrobe (ok, a LOT!) is now from Target due to the time factor- and I just am always buying my little girl SOMETHING. <br /><br />my point: I dress the same, now on a minimum (time) budget. I just don't have TIME to shop!jammysongshttp://www.jammysongs.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-30475923865487810182009-08-16T18:38:00.024-07:002009-08-16T18:38:00.024-07:00Hey...about the google mom image, add some polka-d...Hey...about the google mom image, add some polka-dots and retro heels and she could be rocking that vintage 50's look you love! The hair is brutal though...AlbertaMomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-74760974874050690652009-08-16T16:47:46.488-07:002009-08-16T16:47:46.488-07:00oh,man. i'm in the thick of it with this issue...oh,man. i'm in the thick of it with this issue right now. i always used to dress so cute, vintage and funky and whathaveyou. now? i'm still carrying lots of baby weight. (although she's 18 months old so i'm not sure it's still considered baby weight.) i tend towards comfortable and cheap. i look like every other target mom.<br />i did, finally, start thinking for myself and have started my half sleeve. it's also forcing me to want to dress better in general. show more style.kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07862447137460152226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-91991684742135351732009-08-16T14:36:36.488-07:002009-08-16T14:36:36.488-07:00Um, yeah my wardrobe has changed a bit since havin...Um, yeah my wardrobe has changed a bit since having a child. I worked outside the home before and I really don't think blouse, skirt, heels goes particularly well at the park or pool. Running errands in a suit would be kinda ridiculous. Also, most dresses don't pass the easy access test for breastfeeding. <br /><br />That said, I think my style is still essentially the same. I like smart, fitted clothes. Am I still throwing down $200 on a pair of jeans? Hell no. I have more important things to spend my money on now. I don't think that is a bad thing. But I still know my body and I am learning how to bargain shop and I think that is a good life skill.<br /><br />Furthermore, I recenlty moved to the desert and it is HOT here. I'm talking REALLY REALLY HOT. You kinda have to give in to weather sometimes and so I've embraced shorts and flip-flops this summer.<br /><br />And sometimes I just wear whatever is clean. And you know what? I rock it.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07022434817723918622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-73377555444322185632009-08-16T14:13:54.306-07:002009-08-16T14:13:54.306-07:00I indulge in Lochers.com shirts. Nice. AND naugh...I indulge in Lochers.com shirts. Nice. AND naughty.<br /><br />I love naughty.Twwlyhttp://twwly.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-82348922952003262552009-08-16T13:14:23.732-07:002009-08-16T13:14:23.732-07:00Now, after having kids I definitely wear everythin...Now, after having kids I definitely wear everything under a cloak of "confidence". I find I push the envelope a bit more than I did BC (before-chaos). My choices are a bit more edgy, not necessarily revealing... but if I want to put some red streaks into my hair and rock out a t-shirt from the junior's department, I go for it. But if you want to wear some sensible capri's and a light pink sweater set, that's cool too, I'll still hang out with you in the school parking lot.Tara Basshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15909810205382317982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-47757921514058527142009-08-16T10:35:26.612-07:002009-08-16T10:35:26.612-07:00Post-baby fashion for me hasn't changed much. ...Post-baby fashion for me hasn't changed much. I'm rather young, so it is always evolving as Emery stated. I don't dress for my son so much as the weather down here. Arizona heat=lots o' sundress. Arizona winters=lots o' sundress con tights and boots. Tweak things here and there with accessories, shoes, etc and there you have it.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13808888025816733460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-5071980517037723932009-08-16T09:24:46.690-07:002009-08-16T09:24:46.690-07:00Only two differences in my style post babe (who is...Only two differences in my style post babe (who is one year today, woot!) - #1 -Though I have lost the weight, my tummy is not as flat (still working on it, though) and so the nonchalance with which I wore low jeans that exposed hips/lower abs is on hiatus. I still wear ridonculously low rise jeans, just with long tops.<br /># 2- unless I have a sitter, heels are out the window. <br /><br />Maybe I am vain but it was really important to me not to let my femininity and sexuality go out the window with motherhood.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-32026632192432701182009-08-16T02:45:28.289-07:002009-08-16T02:45:28.289-07:00I find that I dress better now that I have a child...I find that I dress better now that I have a child. I was always kind of embarrassed by the way my mom dressed when I was growing up - she's 6'2", a police officer, and definitely a tomboy, so she's always dressed kind of macho, either slacks and a shirt or jeans and t-shirts...you'd never catch her in a cute dress, or heels, or even jewelry. I love her more than anything, but I always kind of wished she dressed nicer so she would fit in better at functions. So I try to dress in a nice, current style so that I won't embarrass my kid(s) in the future.Stacynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-83735347267061316192009-08-15T23:01:32.978-07:002009-08-15T23:01:32.978-07:00Oooh, my now 15 year old went to a groovy preschoo...Oooh, my now 15 year old went to a groovy preschool co-op, then a groovy K-8 private school, and now attends an arts high school (where at least half the parents are artists who dress creatively). My entire mom career I have been surrounded by moms who dress way cooler than me. (And the school auctions? A way for people to dress even more outrageously. Srsly.) It has never been an issue for me needing to tone it down in any way. <br /><br />And even though I don't make the effort, I really appreciate the people who do! I love seeing the looks creative people put together.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com