Comments on Girl's Gone Child: Quiet is Seldom Discussed

Just stumbled onto your blog and love it. You hav...

2012-01-28T13:17:57.891-08:00

Just stumbled onto your blog and love it. You have a great voice and a style to envy. Keep on.

Wow. Beautiful and brutally honest. Life is inde...

2012-01-25T00:26:58.446-08:00

Wow. Beautiful and brutally honest.

Life is indeed overwhelming.

We think we need to be everything, and yet: We do not know how to just "be."

Maybe because society has told us to run.

I spent my whole first baby thinking that we would...

2012-01-20T16:06:25.273-08:00

I spent my whole first baby thinking that we would 'get there' one day. That everything would suddenly work and be good. Now I realise that we survive by focussing on one day at a time. And then before we know it, we look back and voila - we survived.

I have no idea how you do it. I struggle with two kids - we all have our challenges, and scary situations that rise from the horizon and seem insurmountable, but when we're in the quagmire we don't have time to reflect. Then we turn around and think, "Hey, I survived" and pat our back because we did. And then we prepare for the next challenge. So on and so forth.

You're doing a great job. You go through four months! FOUR MONTHS! if you can survive those four months you can survive anything :) and those beautiful blue eyes will be there, seeing the world a micromilimetre away from they way you do.

Love this. Did you read Pico Iyer's reflection...

2012-01-19T08:09:00.901-08:00

Love this. Did you read Pico Iyer's reflections on this in the NY Times recently?

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/opinion/sunday/the-joy-of-quiet.html?pagewanted=all

SO appreciate your realness and honesty. I am a ne...

2012-01-17T16:58:47.495-08:00

SO appreciate your realness and honesty. I am a new Mom myself and it's nice to hear that others have hard moments- it's a wonderful, HARD, mentally gruelling job, motherhood. Really enjoyed your openness in this post. thank you
p.s. I think you are doing an amazing job and look great post-babies!

There's always one in the bunch. I've been...

2012-01-17T08:35:15.237-08:00

There's always one in the bunch. I've been a nanny for twins and triplets and there's always one!!! It gets easier.

my son finn was (is) a lot like bo. he's 18 mo...

2012-01-16T19:13:11.478-08:00

my son finn was (is) a lot like bo. he's 18 months now and very happy-go-lucky but for the first 4ish he screamed constantly. the other night he woke up screaming (less common now but still with the intensity of his newborn days) and i held him to me whispering, "it's okay, you're okay..." until I realized it only made him scream more. it was as if he was saying, "i'm NOT okay! can't you hear me?" so i started saying, "finny's sad/scared/hurt..." anything i could think that might be bothering him. he INSTANTLY stopped crying and i laid him back down and he went right to sleep. i wondered, what if i had tried that instead of spending all those months rocking and hushing and telling him it's okay? sometimes, i guess, we just want to be heard.

I love this post. We also had a screamer. From bir...

2012-01-16T11:03:19.064-08:00

I love this post. We also had a screamer. From birth til 6 months. He is now a very clever, sensitive 2 year old. You mentioned once that you had two boys names in your back pocket for Boheme and Reverie. Would you consider sharing them? I adore all your kid's names. My son is Winn Hugo. We are expecting another baby and are stumped for boys names!!

I remember this feeling. It isn't so overwhelm...

2012-01-16T10:07:51.728-08:00

I remember this feeling. It isn't so overwhelming now that my twins are almost 3, but I didn't have 2 other kids and I just can't imagine. You are doing it. Everyday is another day you survived. I remember meeting other twin moms that had twin older than mine and telling them "you survived!" I knew I would survive infant twins and will survive toddler twins and motherhood in general but sometimes it feels like it might be possible NOT to survive it. Kinda like when you have really bad allergies and you think you might die from sneezing. But has anyone ever really died from sneezing too much?
What great therapy we have though, right? Being able to write about these experiences and have other identify with us? Amazing, right? It really helps with that "I am SO alone in this feeling!" Even though it is obvious that we are not alone - we have husbands and mothers that are there helping - but you know what I'm talking about. Mothers are the ones that are really "in the thick of it". The one that baby must be strapped to....
Anyways, I FEEL YOU. I'll be quite now because I'm sure your eyes could use the rest...

beautiful post!

2012-01-16T09:43:19.278-08:00

beautiful post!

your words fill me up and make me feel good. i ha...

2012-01-16T06:48:15.376-08:00

your words fill me up and make me feel good. i have twins, but only twins. they are 3 and a half now. sometimes i can't breathe. or think or feel or understand anything. and sometimes i knock it out like a rockstar and feel like the luckliest woman alive. i'd like to write about it one day too.
there's a legit herbal product available now to help with the hair. probably lame of me to add this along with my heartfelt comments about your writing, but I'm a product junkie and also went through the hair loss thing and it freaked me out and if i were you i'd want to know.
it starts with a V...google it.

And the ad running right next to this post as I re...

2012-01-16T02:28:39.214-08:00

And the ad running right next to this post as I read it (at 5:26 AM, for no reason awake but reveling in the rare quiet)-
"The Best Way to Bathe YOUR Baby!!"
Irony.

*love*

For good or ill, this season will pass.

Wow I so relate. I have three kids, age 3 and unde...

2012-01-15T23:18:35.275-08:00

Wow I so relate. I have three kids, age 3 and under. I love what you wrote about the months going by faster than days. So true. And everyone needing something ... and the noise.

Something that has helped me is knowing it won't be this way for very long.

Lotsa love x

It gets better. I promise. My twins are 7 months t...

2012-01-15T19:24:38.345-08:00

It gets better. I promise. My twins are 7 months tomorrow and I never thought I would have a second to myself ever again. Somehow it happens. Love from one twin mom to another...

Beautiful post. My daughter was just like Boheme. ...

2012-01-15T00:16:38.716-08:00

Beautiful post. My daughter was just like Boheme. It's comforting to me to read how different your daughters are. I used to always blame myself: I ran to her the minute she fussed, I breastfed her constantly, I used the swing too much. But you know, some babies just crave your touch. Let's hope they love us this much always. Mine is almost three and every time I leave she says "Mommy I was really missing you." Breaks my heart.

You have trillions of comments on this post and al...

2012-01-14T20:49:48.348-08:00

You have trillions of comments on this post and although you may just skim this one that I've written-I wanted to say thank you. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the noise. This was touching. Thank you.

Beautiful writing. Simply beautiful.

2012-01-14T07:13:50.365-08:00

Beautiful writing. Simply beautiful.

I found your blog while night surfing for things l...

2012-01-14T00:08:36.020-08:00

I found your blog while night surfing for things like "correctly latching on" or "baby constipation" . looking for answers in the dark really as to why my three week old baby hadn't pooped in three days or why do my breasts still hurt? (he is almost 6 weeks now and they still hurt.) I found it really frustrating that so much advice contradicted itself and always to the point of "YOUR BABY MAY DIE". I felt intensely overwhelmed and anxious about everything and ike it would be a really long time before I felt the golden moments of parenthood. A bit dark I know... But then I found your blog just before new years and you summed up your year with the twins and everything and I felt really comforted.

I feel like I have found a circle of support (the comments and other moms are also part of the freatness) that really comforts me and confirms that things are going to be amazing! And this fleeting moment of intensity, insecurity and uncertainty will pass...I should even cherish it as it will be a romanticised memory too soon.

So thank you. I have never been a blog reader before but I'm addicted now. It's the comfort and inspiration I crave while night feeding. (No more articles on "how to get a good latch"). I no longer feel like I'm the only one on baby island dealing with all these worries and doubts.

Thanks so much!

I like this post. I hated it when my hair fell out...

2012-01-13T22:31:27.097-08:00

I like this post. I hated it when my hair fell out after Max was born. It was incredibly disconcerting. I let my baby sleep on his tummy. He will be One in a few days. You are beautiful and so is your family. Godspeed :)

This is so beautiful. I agree with Elaine, this t...

2012-01-13T21:51:59.914-08:00

This is so beautiful. I agree with Elaine, this totally reminded me of why I fell in love with your blog in the first place, and was so excited to meet you when you came to Seattle on book tour. Just amazing.

Thank you for writing this down. I've only dis...

2012-01-13T21:38:51.552-08:00

Thank you for writing this down. I've only discovered your blog for about a year now, but it was providential. I have a 3.5 yr old, 22 month old, and 3 month old identical twin girls. I read your blog and feel as if I'm chatting with an old friend about the adventures of motherhood. Thank you for writing it down. Peace.

beautiful. every mother can relate, just not put i...

2012-01-13T18:52:54.409-08:00

beautiful. every mother can relate, just not put it into words this well. the angst, the joy the love that is life and motherhood. thank you

That was so beautifully written. You spoke my hear...

2012-01-13T18:23:47.278-08:00

That was so beautifully written. You spoke my heart. Thank you.

Rebecca, I have been reading your blog for a while...

2012-01-13T16:21:07.217-08:00

Rebecca, I have been reading your blog for a while but have never commented. I am not a mother or pregnant - I am in my mid-20s (from New Zealand) at a point where I'm not sure what which way is forward and I love reading your blog because I love the way you write and the way you paint the world through your words. Your perspective and your phrasing constantly inspire. When I am looking for that little push forward to start writing something of my own, I have a read of your blog alongside Janet Frame, Hilary Mantel, Joan Didion ... I hope that deep down you know what a wonderful talent you have and that you continue to share it.

Good luck continuing to find and draw strength from the quiet moments.

Crap, I mean that my twins ARE 11 (and their siste...

2012-01-13T15:29:59.656-08:00

Crap, I mean that my twins ARE 11 (and their sister almost 14). Apparently the fact that it gets better and easier does not mean that I have become a better typist or proofreader! :)