tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post5167615575552470026..comments2008-11-28T12:26:57.289-08:00GIRL'S GONE CHILDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07130764109593048451noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-3961151892443701852008-11-28T12:26:00.000-08:002008-11-28T12:26:00.000-08:00my cousin just told me about your blog yesterday at thanksgiving dinner. imagine that? your blog the topic of two cousins' thanksgiving convo? oh the blog world. anyway, i am so glad she did. i <EM> really </EM> needed this post today. thank you, thank you. <BR/><BR/>-a newlywed and a new reader.brookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05691629255778482415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-36525731298631985742008-11-27T13:57:00.000-08:002008-11-27T13:57:00.000-08:00this is my favorite post of yours so far. you have to come read my thanksgiving post! it's all about my marriage making it through insanity.<BR/><BR/>i love your edge and honesty! that picture is blow up worthy, eh?Maggie Mayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-7903528826772820802008-11-23T18:28:00.000-08:002008-11-23T18:28:00.000-08:00Here's to more happy couples advocating for more happy couples. I say the world could use all it can get. Whoever they might be.Mom101http://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-53214998454843337152008-11-23T15:05:00.000-08:002008-11-23T15:05:00.000-08:00THANK YOU. Marriage is not for the faint of heart, that's fo sho.Stephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-9981388013905898342008-11-23T13:33:00.000-08:002008-11-23T13:33:00.000-08:00My partner &amp; I will have been together one year in December, and our baby is due in January. I often worry about how that sounds to people, but it was all planned and we&#39;ve never had a regretful day.<BR/>I guess it just feels so right. Who knows if that will last forever &amp; ever, but I think you can scare yourself if you think in FOREVERS all the time.<BR/>This post definitely made me feel a little better about our time line -- sometimes it&#39;s nice to know that others have done the same!<BR/>Peace.Desiree Fawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05248779047139738858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-38565728024357221292008-11-23T12:14:00.000-08:002008-11-23T12:14:00.000-08:00You guys are fucking gorgeous! You make it look easy- but I'm with you, it's hard as hell, esp. with young kids. But probably not as hard as it was when we were drinking and partying too much- that is the part we almost did not survive (mostly my fault, admittedly.) Having kids probably saved us, or me, anyway....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-54621095042451387462008-11-22T14:11:00.000-08:002008-11-22T14:11:00.000-08:00i love how you conveniently left out that you almost left hal FOR ME! for MEEEEEE!!! if you told them that, then they would understand.bmcwantstomarryyounoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-15602001583134341102008-11-22T01:47:00.000-08:002008-11-22T01:47:00.000-08:00You guys are mad cute. And yes, marriage is hard. oh boy is it ever hard.courtneyhttp://fiveseconddanceparty.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-29383926086516455262008-11-21T18:28:00.000-08:002008-11-21T18:28:00.000-08:00Man. Marriage is hard. After seven years of marriage and two children, I ping-pong between loving my husband more than ever and 'who the hell is this person'? Sigh. <BR/><BR/>(Oh, and thanks for that photo reminder. Ever since last year when I saw it I wanted to host a fugly Christmas sweater party. Whee!)mrs. q.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-51444106044251221562008-11-21T13:18:00.000-08:002008-11-21T13:18:00.000-08:00THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. This is so what I needed to hear, and read and hear others say. That it's OK to not be perfect all the time. I'm about 1 1/2 years in being married, and I'm still waiting to "love being married." I know I love my husband, and can confirm that after being together for 2 years,100% broken up for 3 years, and rushed back togehter and got married...But I feel so horrible for hating him, while loving him. Sometimes I just want to run away from it all. So many previous posts are right-every time I doubt it, we manage to get through it and I'm reminded why it's worth sticking around. Just this week, I tormented myself over this issue "It get's better, right? RIGHT?"...good to know it does. Thanks agagin (and you totally are hot in your wedding picture!)Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13253502108624622352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-6014785750099592502008-11-21T10:19:00.000-08:002008-11-21T10:19:00.000-08:00Thanks for that post. My husband and I are going through some really challenging times and there are certainly moments when I wonder if I have made the right decisions in my life (even after four years of marriage and seven of being together). But, you're right, every time I doubt it, something happens that reminds me how much we love each other and were meant to be together.<BR/><BR/>Of course, beautifully written, as always.Petra a.k.a The Wise (*Young*) Mommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01717981499965181200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-56099824546594208822008-11-21T08:23:00.000-08:002008-11-21T08:23:00.000-08:00GAH! This post really, really hit home for me. Marriage IS hard and I truly believe we ALL deserve the legal right to take a stab at it. Thanks for your candor....Girl Fridayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03611086745465873328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-32273435029902153042008-11-20T23:55:00.000-08:002008-11-20T23:55:00.000-08:00gah. totally. <BR/><BR/>my now husband and i got pregnant, uh... 3 months into it? natural family planning doesn't work so hot when you're bonking a few times a day (oh man. how did we DO that?!). i was 21. my husband 25. <BR/><BR/>im american (californian), and was living in new zealand when i met him... in NZ, just being in a partnership has all the same legal and social benefits of marriage, and gay-marriage is legal as well. we chose to get married anyways when i was 2 months pregnant, mostly because my mum was coming out from the states and we wanted her to be there. we also chose to get married as all seemed perfect. fast but perfect. hm. <BR/><BR/>in the (almost) 2 years since being married, our circumstances have been ridiculous. major career changes, a huge move to a new big scary lonely city a week before finding out we were pregnant, financial destitution at full term pregnancy (got a notice for power getting cut off 2 days before my due date in the dead of NZ winter), bloody intense family issues on both sides, a 50-hr intense natural labor at home, post partum depression, moving countries, where he now watches baby all day (so hard for a very academic sort of guy) and i work full time as a clinical midwife supervisor - where i might not really see him or my bubs for days except for him to drop some food off or to breastfeed... and sex with this sort of schedule? ha. no need for family planning these days.<BR/><BR/>so yes. its fucking hard. and we brawl it out. but thats what great - we brawl it OUT, and move on, and be stronger, and know each other deeper - and hence with more love than we had in the 5 months knowing each other before we got married. and maia slots right into the whole picture of who we are -- we might have been totally different, had more fun, gone out more - or maybe not. maybe we never would have had the beautiful relationship that we have now if baby hadn't of forced us to stick it out. <BR/><BR/>so yeah. carry on.mine... and now yours.http://www.blogger.com/profile/13471137601494341885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-71814457431213896192008-11-20T23:51:00.000-08:002008-11-20T23:51:00.000-08:00thanks for the link, and I agree that marriage is hard work but so worth it!Sara McGinnesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08736244884962935268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-4193386103711630402008-11-20T20:58:00.000-08:002008-11-20T20:58:00.000-08:00I can't say how much it means to me to read what you have to say about marriage. I am newly married and we are coming up on a year. I have been sitting around lately second guessing everything, wondering were my love has gone, and hoping beyond hope that the being in love will come back. You give me hope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-54340389667029689982008-11-20T20:01:00.000-08:002008-11-20T20:01:00.000-08:00The 2007 picture of you guys? Is awesome. ;)JuJuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08120740123690137927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-10794794453088657752008-11-20T19:15:00.000-08:002008-11-20T19:15:00.000-08:00Amen! <BR/>So true, it's hard work, harder to be married to one than to be the mom of 6 little ones...anita dobermanhttp://www.anitadoberman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-61384088322480264892008-11-20T18:22:00.000-08:002008-11-20T18:22:00.000-08:00amenBellamarinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02963696369655428230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-9242461848547081712008-11-20T15:37:00.000-08:002008-11-20T15:37:00.000-08:00your wedding picture is gorgeous; you look absolutely stunning in it.ambernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-80039179116770743752008-11-20T15:05:00.000-08:002008-11-20T15:05:00.000-08:00Marriage = reality<BR/>Hate = reality <BR/>Its the truth.Erin, Nick and Merrickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03851960073900583912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-79482076525119168182008-11-20T14:11:00.000-08:002008-11-20T14:11:00.000-08:00and on another subject...have you heard of Ashley Madison???? i was driving to work and heard an add on the radio- on the freakin' RADIO! about this site where you can have a discreet AFFAIR!!! THIS is OKAY but gay marriage is bad??? i'm sorry but i cannot wrap my brain around this. (it was on the public, free radio!!!!!!! i'm absolutely speechless.)jjlibranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-14155372861961201542008-11-20T14:09:00.000-08:002008-11-20T14:09:00.000-08:00holy crap you are good. were you in my head when i got up this morning????? my husband works at night so he wasn't even home and i woke up pissed at him. i just thought about him and the way he is (strict with the kids and always grumpy, not spontanious....) and i was mad at him and mad at me for being with him. i was thinking this is not the way i want to live. and when you live with someone life is a compromise. if he doesn't like company well then we can't have much of that. we got a dog and he makes it seem like it's the hardest thing in the world. everything is an inconvenience to him and me being so optimistic and happy about life all the time, well i just can't stand him!!! so today i was very not happy and reading your post made me feel better. it made me think that maybe one day i won't hate him anymore. because today? i do.jjlibranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-15940701730407189512008-11-20T13:14:00.000-08:002008-11-20T13:14:00.000-08:00As a single mother who's marriage did not work out (we only knew each other for 3 months before getting hitched)... I completely hear you. <BR/><BR/>As I always tell the married women who say, "I'm so sorry you're a single mom," - I say - "No, believe me being a single mom (in my eyes) is FAR easier than being married." <BR/><BR/>Marriage is a FULL-time job until you hit that sweet spot and it sounds like you have. <BR/><BR/>Big question - will I ever get married again - now, that I will have to see a therapist for because it scares the living shit out me. <BR/><BR/>But I've actually met someone who is major marriage material, makes it all seem so easy because he's been there and he's a pro at relationships, an awesome listener and communicator. <BR/><BR/>Take care! Loved your videos too - you're SO damn beautiful. : )Ms. Single Mamahttp://www.mssinglemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-31064271332403867822008-11-20T12:36:00.000-08:002008-11-20T12:36:00.000-08:00This resonates with me because I have so wanted to write a post about how hard marriage is, but because too many family members read my blog, I haven't. I don't want to worry them. Because yes, marriage is WAY harder than motherhood. It's hard to love someone every day, every year. It's hard to find passion in a life where you are barely sleeping, scraping mashed food out of the carpet, or yelling at someone to pick up all those crayons! I'm amazed any marriages survive the years when the kids are young. <BR/><BR/>You wanted an Amen. <BR/><BR/>Amen.Rockzeehttp://rockzee.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-76163611597662341532008-11-20T11:17:00.000-08:002008-11-20T11:17:00.000-08:00I've never heard anyone put it that way, but yeah, I agree that there's something special about a relationship that has survived some VERY HARD times, and even some hate, and come out the other end. Ours is a very different story from yours, and although we're not even married yet (in part because Simon is so pissed off about the anti-gay marriage movement that he's staying legally single as a personal protest (um...okay, Brad Pitt)) I think that a lot of our love and strength comes directly from a history of almost-having-not-made-it.Leahhttp://www.agirlandaboy.comnoreply@blogger.com