tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post5973419454810782272..comments2023-11-02T07:53:45.876-07:00Comments on Girl's Gone Child: What the Bleep...?GIRL'S GONE CHILDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07130764109593048451noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-30933599044096624002012-04-25T21:03:05.222-07:002012-04-25T21:03:05.222-07:00I have a question....How do I ( the sitter) stop a...I have a question....How do I ( the sitter) stop a 3 yr old from saying the F word, if the parents wont....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-71278967527559125282007-10-05T10:34:00.000-07:002007-10-05T10:34:00.000-07:00perhaps the problem was when he and dad got into i...perhaps the problem was when he and dad got into it the other night and The Boy yelled, "I'm gonna BEAT YOUR ASS, Dad."<BR/><BR/>I'm guessing they are gonna LOVE that one over at the preschool.mommyneedsacocktailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16442253609060112909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-30891705575354057022007-10-02T06:59:00.000-07:002007-10-02T06:59:00.000-07:00Great article! My husband was convinced that my s...Great article! My husband was convinced that my son's first word would be goddamnmotherfucker--I'm constantly running into walls, even though I'm pretty sure they don't move. I've been shocked (and oh so appreciative) that my son, now nearly four, has not yet repeated one of Mommy's four-letter-word-mashups. He repeats everything else, verbatim, sometimes months later. My husband says that the boy just KNOWS that what Mommy says is BAD.SAHMmy Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03312083333399431135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-31616616675594510902007-10-01T16:33:00.000-07:002007-10-01T16:33:00.000-07:00This is sorta related to the "what do you call pri...This is sorta related to the "what do you call private parts" quandary. I have a bad habit of referring to it as "junk", while his dad calls it a "dink", neither one of which I'd like to hear hin repeat. He has said "dink" while pointing to the general area, but I think he's saying "stink", which is generally accurate.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07976242458893998946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-60711929192997453872007-09-29T21:21:00.000-07:002007-09-29T21:21:00.000-07:00I censored myself HARD when little one started to ...I censored myself HARD when little one started to talk. She never cursed when little, because she'd never heard the words . I'm just saying, if they don't hear it, they won't repeat it, so it just depends what you want.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-87038428912220216832007-09-29T13:52:00.000-07:002007-09-29T13:52:00.000-07:00I quit cursing cold turkey when I had my son. Pro...I quit cursing cold turkey when I had my son. Problem is, I now find myself wanting to read stuff or to listen to music that has a lot of cursing involved. Ben Folds. Gangsta rap. Blogs.<BR/><BR/>My husband still doesn't have the off button set on his knee-jerk cursing, however, and, because I call him on it fairly frequently, that tendency to tell him to shush is what has been passed on to the little guy. My favorite instance of that was when Dan was putting up the bunk bed for the kid and struggling mightily with the task. At one point, the little guy looked at me, wide-eyed, and relayed this : "Mommy, Daddy said 'shit'!"<BR/><BR/>Apparently, though, Dan draws the line at Yiddish curses, because he had to clamp down on the little guy's new favorite word, "schmuck".<BR/><BR/>Now he knows how I feel...Leigh C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13654596932726420097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-63560609661763899692007-09-29T08:44:00.000-07:002007-09-29T08:44:00.000-07:00eh, fuck it. i gave up a long fucking time ago -- ...eh, fuck it. i gave up a long fucking time ago -- trying not to fuck my kid up with this assholish "proper language" shit. and it's a bitch to try to remember not to fucking curse all the goddamn fucking time. i mean, yes it fucking sucks to have your fucking kid sreaming that kind of shit in a fucking church or something. but i am an asshole parent and i often don't fucking catch myself in time to keep from cursing every motherfucking second.<BR/><BR/>love you. and MISS YOU LIKE CRAZY.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-57765890195214554982007-09-29T01:26:00.000-07:002007-09-29T01:26:00.000-07:00i grew up i a house where my grandmother used the ...i grew up i a house where my grandmother used the word 'bloody'a lot. so did my parents. but boy were they strict with us. i think i agree with someone in the comments above. they see us knocking back beer and lighting up cigarettes. there are just something that are adult and they are just not allowed to do. its not hypocrisy. i light the cooking range and candles but i dont let my son do it. and hell, i can swear with the best of them and i do. i dont know when he will begin to repeat them, he's two and has an extensive vocabulary but the worst was a phase he went through at 16 months where everything was 'bugger'. fortunately thats over.the mad mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535453643548976883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-80041925780344517372007-09-28T19:56:00.000-07:002007-09-28T19:56:00.000-07:00I have no wisdom as I am in the same position as y...I have no wisdom as I am in the same position as you. My (almost) two year old, Layla, recently added <I>holy fuck</I> to her vocabulary. Well it comes out more like "Ho-wee fuck!", which is actually really cute and it make it really hard not to laugh.<BR/><BR/>Bad mommy.Crazy Baby Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09892258598270959557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-39209491033523745852007-09-28T12:31:00.000-07:002007-09-28T12:31:00.000-07:00Well, I curse a lot. I have no children so it's no...Well, I curse a lot. I have no children so it's not a problem.<BR/><BR/>My parents cursed a lot. I do so, but it didn't f**k me up or anything. I didn't go around cursing at everybody in school, I never said f**k at a job interview... I mean, what's wrong with it? <BR/><BR/>Archer is smart enough to pick those words from anyone at the park or whenever he hears them.<BR/><BR/>Isn't it better that you teach him to use those words appropiately instead of making a tabu out of them? Remember that, normally, what is banned is more and more attractive. So, when he's ready talk to him about what cursing means and what it's for and you'll be alright. As long as you don't curse at someone that pisses you off you won't be giving a bad example, as far as I can see.<BR/><BR/>Teach him the basic "cursing rules": not to curse at somebody to hurt their feelings, maybe (only if you feel like it) not cursing at the park or the supermarket... whatever you like. Just let him be comfortable with cursing (himself) and people cursing around and it won't be such a big deal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-36246940579931786282007-09-28T11:29:00.000-07:002007-09-28T11:29:00.000-07:00I'm pretty good because I've always worked with ki...I'm pretty good because I've always worked with kids, so I'm in the habit of censoring. But yeah, they are listening. One day, I stopped myself in mid-mild-curse, "Bloody..." and Pumpkinpie finished it off for me, cheerily. "Hell!" oops. Not so bad, though.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-45680644462020802562007-09-28T09:30:00.000-07:002007-09-28T09:30:00.000-07:00Oh, and my mom only curses when she's really angry...Oh, and my mom only curses when she's really angry...and Dad's a railroader, so you can imagine all the times that Mom had to say "could you PLEASE not say that, the kids are listening" (I'm oldest of 4).Jessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01288270364460048245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-84153103814772358772007-09-28T09:29:00.000-07:002007-09-28T09:29:00.000-07:00I TRIED not to curse too much, but I tell you what...I TRIED not to curse too much, but I tell you what finally made me stop and seriously think before I say curse words again....and that was my 2.5 yr old daughter saying "shit". And do you know, when she said it, what I said? Yup, you guessed it! "Shit! You can't say that word, it's a bad Mommy word! Tell Mommy the next time she says a bad word, ok?"<BR/><BR/>And then I giggled when she told Daddy that he'd said a bad word!<BR/><BR/>And now, we only curse if we're REALLY angry, because the guilt and stomach wrenching I felt upon hearing that little voice say "shit!" was enough to make me want to take vows of silence and chastity.....well....almost.....*grin*Jessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01288270364460048245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-22743006528135656132007-09-28T05:19:00.000-07:002007-09-28T05:19:00.000-07:00No swearing in my house growing up. "Shut-up" was...No swearing in my house growing up. "Shut-up" was the worst [swear] word of all. Now, with a 3 month old and a 3 year old, I can't stop cursing. But, I never say "shut-up". The real swear words - I have just learned to say those a little quiter. Controlled swearing - if it can be helped. (And, a lot of the time it can, because sometimes you know that saying "fuck head" in the perfect place will just make the story better.) Also, some advice - when Julian starts repeating Jeff and I, we simply tell him he heard us wrong. Jeff really, really dislikes bicyclists, especially those that act like cars by driving in the middle of the road and then do not obey traffic laws -like stop signs. So, one day as we were driving a bunch of cyclists cut Jeff off. And of course he yells, "MOTHER FUCKERS!" Of course, Julian yells, "Yeah, MOTHER FUCKERS!" I say, "Oh sweetie, daddy said "Mother suckers!" Without any hesitation, Julian says, "Oh - MOTHER SUCKERS!" Is that better? It's funny either way.screaming girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12805690074342391494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-37634452763238173372007-09-28T04:47:00.000-07:002007-09-28T04:47:00.000-07:00My sis (Mrs Q, above) and my mom were feeding chic...My sis (Mrs Q, above) and my mom were feeding chicken to my oldest, who at the time was 2?3? and she said, "This chicken is friggin' hot!"<BR/><BR/>Yeah, friggin' became my curse word of choice but it still sounds awful coming out of the mouth of a toddler! (but it is funny!).Fairly Odd Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11974404093257620566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-59925394704373315862007-09-28T03:34:00.000-07:002007-09-28T03:34:00.000-07:00In our house, I'm the parent who (usually) self-ce...In our house, I'm the parent who (usually) self-censors around the little one. My husband lets it all fly, and it drives me crazy.<BR/><BR/>I attribute this to the fact that I grew up in a Poppins household too (seriously, never even <I>saw them disagree</I>! It was like Pollyanna in Stepford!) and when I started cursing --probably in middle school-- I became adept at a dual personality vocabulary. Around my friends, I could curse. At home, it was all sweetness & light.<BR/><BR/>My husband grew up with parents who, while not sailors or anything, did occasionally curse around him and his sisters. They grew up comfortable with curse words, so he only rarely censors himself. (Hopefully he manages this at work. You don't want you doctor greeting you at the bedside with, "Well, we got all of the tumor out, but that was some <I>fucked-up shit in there!</I>")<BR/><BR/>So, when we're around Smooch, I naturally revert to my dual personality. I can censor around him (aside from under-my-breath stuff when I stub my toe, etc.) and my husband can't. It will be interesting to see whether he grows up cursing like his dad.... or hiding his cursing like his mom.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-27586717889032074102007-09-28T02:30:00.000-07:002007-09-28T02:30:00.000-07:00I meant to say they are 7 & 4.5 now...when they we...I meant to say they are 7 & 4.5 now...when they were younger meaning young toddler stage.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04455637064686856773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-29379815907212360292007-09-28T02:29:00.000-07:002007-09-28T02:29:00.000-07:00My parents cussed in front of me. I'm not scarred...My parents cussed in front of me. I'm not scarred. <BR/><BR/>I semi-censor myself around the boys. I'll say ass and damn around them, but not fuck. They have repeated damn before and I explain to them it's a grown up word and they have to wait until they're grown up to say it. Hell, saying cuss words was one thing I looked forward to growing up for. It dang sure isn't the taxes, yk. <BR/><BR/>But I will say when they were younger (7 and 4.5) I watched my words much better because they couldn't grasp the "you're not big enough" idea yet. But honestly, I could count on one hand with fingers left over how many times they've ever repeated a cuss word.<BR/><BR/>I say whatever you feel comfortable with. There are worse tragedies in the world than a child repeating a cuss word. Last I heard, no one has ever died from hearing 'shit' uttered from a 2 year old mouth.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04455637064686856773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-57079502225603582512007-09-27T20:33:00.000-07:002007-09-27T20:33:00.000-07:00It's a non-issue to me. I don't curse in front of ...It's a non-issue to me. I don't curse in front of other people's kids because I respect their decisions as parents, but I doubt I'll sensor myself around my own kids. <BR/><BR/>I was with my cousin (she's 11) when she carefully swore in front of me. She stopped and waited for my reaction. I told her that she probably could think of a better descriptor than it "looks like shit", and we worked on some alternatives that were far more descriptive. In my opinion, resorting to shocking language is just plain uncreative! And for those of us who love language, lets make sure we are using our big vocabularies when we can. <BR/><BR/>Check out Penn & Teller's show "Bullshit" for this and many other amazing issues covered. There is a great one on swearing that I really enjoyed. <BR/><BR/>And, to take a line from Harry Potter "fear of a name is fear of the thing itself" Just make it a non-issue, and it will be. <BR/><BR/>And like you said, you can't expect Archer to grow up doing something other than what dear old mom and dad are doing. Even if he does "feel like ass" some days, he's got a lot of other fantastic stuff going for him coming from your household. <BR/><BR/>Cheers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-9628137975206096632007-09-27T19:40:00.000-07:002007-09-27T19:40:00.000-07:00You will often hear "BROTHERTRUCKER!" in our house...You will often hear "BROTHERTRUCKER!" in our house but the general rule is this: If you don't want the child to repeat it to the preschool teacher then don't say it.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10485533532611995466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-71280524623643795242007-09-27T17:33:00.000-07:002007-09-27T17:33:00.000-07:00I let fly with the expletives more often than I sh...I let fly with the expletives more often than I should in front of my girls, but I decided early that rather than say they "can't" use those words (cuz I'd invariably have to follow up with the whole lame "because Daddy said so" argument), instead I would focus on making sure they know the context in which the words should/shouldn't be used. <BR/><BR/>This seems to have worked: Youngest Daughter is nine and Eldest Daughter is twelve and neither one of them curses. I think in the end it only becomes a big deal if you make it one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-86062984690533124742007-09-27T15:17:00.000-07:002007-09-27T15:17:00.000-07:00I love you all! I don't know how I'll ever restrai...I love you all! I don't know how I'll ever restraint myself, to date I have not. But she's only 4 months old so who cares. This string of comments has been highly entertaining, so much so, I just woke up my daughter from her nap with my loud guffaws. Fuck.The Flying Enchiladahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01831840049943978756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-85099223840322657252007-09-27T14:52:00.000-07:002007-09-27T14:52:00.000-07:00When I was little the rule in my house was that we...When I was little the rule in my house was that we could swear all we wanted, but we couldn't call other people swear words. So I could say shit if I stubbed my toe, but I couldn't call my brother a shit when he tossed fireworks at my feet. Seemed like a good deal at the time and I think I will use the same rule for Zoey when the time comes. Consequently I am not much for swearing. Except for calling my husband a fucking bitch-hole from time to time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-41807077326654489782007-09-27T14:51:00.000-07:002007-09-27T14:51:00.000-07:00I'm bad about it, but I try to curb it around my n...I'm bad about it, but I try to curb it around my nieces. <BR/><BR/>When I was a kid, you could only swear in the car. Because that's where my mother swore. <BR/><BR/>I guess teach him when to use it and where or you'll have to stop saying things yourself.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780589302319316351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18751784.post-55739697847105082472007-09-27T14:48:00.000-07:002007-09-27T14:48:00.000-07:00I fucking love cursing, so it's been really hard l...I fucking love cursing, so it's been really hard learning NOT to do it in front of my son. I'm not so much worried about him learning the words, just that I want him to be old enough to 1)know what settings are okay and not okay for cursing, and 2)how to use them with skill.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06381359915367648550noreply@blogger.com