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My three sons' biological father is Mexican, a...

2009-11-03T11:25:58.174-08:00

My three sons' biological father is Mexican, and they were therefore born with full heads of thick, dark, gorgeous hair. And eyelashes that Maybelline keeps trying to sell us. No matter WHAT I dressed them in (overalls! baseball caps! t-shirts reading "ASK ME ABOUT MY PENIS!") they were exclaimed over as SUCH ADORABLE GIRLS!
Now I have a daughter, different father, and she is very nearly bald. Do I have to tell you the punchline here? No, I do not.
*sigh*

I was equally offended when my daughter was a baby...

2009-11-03T07:41:05.035-08:00

I was equally offended when my daughter was a baby + (often!) mistaken for a boy because of her no-hair situation. But now? I wonder why it was so important to me. Now I wish that the dividing line between genders wasn't so darkly marked.

I can sympathize! Same thing has happened many tim...

2009-11-02T07:48:55.268-08:00

I can sympathize! Same thing has happened many times with my daughter. It's got to be the hair. People just have this weird mental block to little baby girls without a ton of hair. Some days I got tired of saying "She's a girl." to strangers who would compliment my cute little boy so I just said, "Thanks!" and went on my way!

PS - those baby tupees freak me out, dude. BAD. AN...

2009-11-02T07:23:39.595-08:00

PS - those baby tupees freak me out, dude. BAD. AND. WRONG!

I am actually horrified FOR you. Because THE HELL?...

2009-11-02T07:15:19.611-08:00

I am actually horrified FOR you. Because THE HELL? Are there that many crazy women out there who DO dress their boys as little girls that people assume that's what you're doing? I mean, it's one thing if she's wearing a t-shirt and jeans in uni-sex colors and someone innocently makes the mistake, but THE. HELL? Pink sparkles and rainbows and dresses = the kid is LIKELY a girl.

I actually saw this happen at the supermarket. The cashier referred to a baby in a dress as a little boy and in my head I was all, "Seriously? BECAUSE THE KID IS WEARING A DRESS!"

Although, sidenote - my ex-boyfriend's mom wanted a girl sooooooooooooo badly that when her first child,a boy, was born - my ex's older brother - she grew out his hair and dressed him as a little girl FOR TWO YEARS.

Thank god we broke up.

You're hilarious. Love the way you tell a stor...

2009-11-01T18:17:00.105-08:00

You're hilarious. Love the way you tell a story. And you're two boys are just darling. :)

Oh, one other thing: my 2nd daughter has always ha...

2009-11-01T16:08:00.357-08:00

Oh, one other thing: my 2nd daughter has always had super short hair, by (my) choice---it looks adorable on her and is super easy to take care of. When she was about 4, a little boy asked what 'his' name was, and when I said she was a girl, he said she couldn't be a girl b/c she had short hair(! the horror!) and was wearing blue (!ahhhhh!). I cut the kid a break b/c he was maybe 6, but it bugged me.

Bald baby girls/toddlers here too. BALD until abou...

2009-11-01T16:05:17.987-08:00

Bald baby girls/toddlers here too. BALD until about 2 when teeny bits of hair sprouted.

My biggest IDIOT moment came when I had my 6 month old daughter in the pool in a ONE PIECE BATHING SUIT with a little frilly skirt on it and someone asked me how old HE was. WTF!?!?!

And, maybe I was just being stubborn but I refused to put anything in their hair to help people figure it out.

People really do assume bald babies are boys. I ha...

2009-11-01T14:40:08.346-08:00

People really do assume bald babies are boys. I had the twins I nanny for in purple and pink and an older gentleman called them boys which I politely corrected. I gave him a break since he was probably approaching 80 years old.

Stupid people will continue being stupid. I distin...

2009-11-01T09:34:03.609-08:00

Stupid people will continue being stupid. I distinctly remember once when I was 5 years old--and not bald--and wearing my Strawberry Shortcake shirt and pants, a little old lady saying something to my mother like, "what a nice little boy..." Whatever she said, I was old enough to be really pissed off. I was in head to toe pink, in an outfit I really liked, with a girl cartoon character on the front. Yes, I had a pageboy haircut. Grrrr. Still makes me annoyed to think about it. Mom just laughed it off, though.

This is the FUNNIEST post I have ever read! I am ...

2009-11-01T07:46:19.823-08:00

This is the FUNNIEST post I have ever read! I am laughing so hard that my cat has come in to see what is going on. Fable is the most beautiful little girl I have seen in a really long time. I want to squeeze her chubby thighs until her sparkled rainbow headband falls off. That girl is ADORABLE, in a girlie kinda way ;-)

Well, everyone thinks my boy is a girl. He'll ...

2009-11-01T07:30:42.483-08:00

Well,
everyone thinks my boy is a girl. He'll be in camo and football shirts and baseball hats and shoes with rockets on them and people will be like, "She is soooooo pretty." And I don't know why. It's not like I put make-up and earrings on him. His hair's not long. I don't know. But it's really weird that people have such diarrhea of the brain sometimes. Oh well. Fable is a beautiful little girl! People are just dumb.

I dress my daughter in my son's hand me downs ...

2009-11-01T06:45:11.728-08:00

I dress my daughter in my son's hand me downs (yeah, I'm that cheap) and so I'm braced for people using male pronouns. In the rare moments when anyone refers to her with a feminine pronoun I think "Wow, that's just amazing that they could tell that she's a girl, despite all the blue sports stuff on her! She must exude girliness or something like that."
I think it's a little less of a stretch, though, to dress a girl in boys clothes than to dress a boy in sparkles. Who _are_ these people?!
And, Fable is one of the most feminine-lookin baby/toddler (bobbler you said?) girls I've ever seen. Is there something about you that seems more like a Mom of a son than of a daughter? Is there a subtle difference? I don't know. It's curious, though.

I was bald for almost 3 years. My younger sister&...

2009-10-31T23:01:35.090-07:00

I was bald for almost 3 years. My younger sister's hair was halfway down her back when I managed to sprout more than one curl on the very top of my head. My mom used to TAPE bows on my head and dress me in pink, yet people still thought I was a boy. People are dumb. That's my only conclusion.

Hahahah! I am dying after reading this post. I was...

2009-10-31T19:41:36.327-07:00

Hahahah! I am dying after reading this post. I was born with a head full of jet black hair, then after about two weeks, it all fell out and I was COMPLETELY BALD until I was almost two. My mom went right out (to my father's dismay) and got my ears pierced. Even then, she says that people still referred to me as her son. I feel for Fable, but if it helps at all, just think of this as a funny story to tell her when she gets older. I know that I laughed about it when my mom first told me.

shocking. why are people so dumb? but i do have to...

2009-10-31T19:11:19.406-07:00

shocking. why are people so dumb? but i do have to say that my sister in law came to a family gathering with her son in a pink fuzzy pajama onsie. WTF? This was like a year ago, and I'm still talking about it.

Fable is a girl it is so obvious! I love the way ...

2009-10-31T12:16:43.885-07:00

Fable is a girl it is so obvious! I love the way you dress her it is very much the same way I dress Isabel, we love misha lulu and I have that same headband, if people can't decipher her gender with that headband God help them!!!

This happens to us all. the. time. While it certa...

2009-10-31T09:46:06.783-07:00

This happens to us all. the. time. While it certainly baffles me at points (like when Bug is totally dressed like a girl head to toe), for some reason it hasn't ever bothered me. I just expect some people to be idiots and others, I think, are simply oblivious to anything other than their own human experience.

C'est la vie.

LMAO - What a GREAT start to my Saturday/Halloween...

2009-10-31T08:09:39.270-07:00

LMAO - What a GREAT start to my Saturday/Halloween! You make me laugh. Sorry that something sucky for you, makes me laugh - actually it's the way you word it.

Here's an idea ~ write on a whole post-it note thingy "I'M A GIRL DUMBASS" keep the pad w/ ya & everytime you get asked or told, without speaking, just pull one out & stick it to Fable!!

My 6 week old daughter has a full head of dark hai...

2009-10-31T06:22:38.836-07:00

My 6 week old daughter has a full head of dark hair. I don't have any barrettes because i havent seen any that we like. anyway, on days when she has a bright pink hat on with a pink fleece jumper...those are the times when people say "he" what gives?
i mean, i don't get offended, she is a baby,who can ever tell. i think the american education system might need to work more on "understanding context clues" though.

oh my... my daughter is of the "full, black h...

2009-10-31T02:10:39.363-07:00

oh my... my daughter is of the "full, black hair at birth and long luscious locks at 1 year old" variant... and she's dressed pink and purple and frilly almost ALL the time... with pink pacifiers, pink ribboned piggy tails... the whole deal.

and? "look at that cute boy" - MORE THAN ONCE.

people are just stupid.

My son gets the same thing because of his long wis...

2009-10-31T01:07:15.857-07:00

My son gets the same thing because of his long wispy hair. And I refuse to cut it just to make him look more boyish.

Get a clue people.

People are lame. Fable is a beautiful little gal a...

2009-10-30T22:18:58.786-07:00

People are lame. Fable is a beautiful little gal and I agree with the person who said her hair will end up growing in thick and lovely. Just wait and see. :-)

Oh, and I totally would have told that lady to piss off.

context clues people. Even my daughter, with a he...

2009-10-30T21:48:52.330-07:00

context clues people. Even my daughter, with a head full of hair and more, was thought to be a boy once because over her purple and green floral turtle neck she had a blue sweater. I guess blue = boy and pink = girl and there is no arguing with that.

This seems to be quite the popular post! The exac...

2009-10-30T21:17:08.512-07:00

This seems to be quite the popular post!

The exact opposite has been happening to our son. His full head of wispy brown hair has haunted him since the day he was born. More times than I can count people have told us how beautiful, or cute our little girls is even though HE is wearing BLUE Socks, Shoes, Sweater, riding in a BLUE stroller, a BASEBALL CAP, CAMOUFLAGE PANTS, and a shirt that says BOYS RULE.

I feel your pain, although I have taken the path of least resistance and have stopped correcting people. He is definitely going to have a complex when he gets older.