Comments on Girl's Gone Child: Still Weighting

I gained 53 pounds during my pregnancy. Finally at...

2008-08-24T22:36:00.000-07:00

I gained 53 pounds during my pregnancy. Finally at 38 weeks I stopped gaining. Nothing like EVERYONE telling me how huge I was and how I'd have a monster sized child etc etc My Mother in law swore I'd have twins. Like pregnant women aren't emotional enough.

In the end I lost 20 lbs just by delivering and my babe didn't weigh quite seven pounds.

I hope to be pregnant again even if it means being abnormal and gaining more than 25-30 lbs. I read a parenting book from 1957 which stated a woman should gain no more than 20lbs...yeah right.

OK, everyone is different. I had three children an...

2008-08-16T13:57:00.000-07:00

OK, everyone is different. I had three children and with EACH pregnancy gained btwn 55-60 pounds. Now THAT is a lot. What sucked is the last two I was on a diabetic diet and did it PERFECTLY. Still gained the same amount and all of my children were 8 pounds even. OBs
explanation:that's how my body works. I'm 5'8 and run around a size 8. So embrace that you're body is doing what it needs to nourish your child (unless you are eating McDonald's every other meal) and accept that each woman is different. You look fabulous- unlike me where EVERY inch of me showed my weight gain (puffy fat face anyone?) and not just my tummy.

I'm already up to the weight that I delivered my s...

2008-08-16T10:28:00.000-07:00

I'm already up to the weight that I delivered my son at and I'm only 35 weeks preggo. I also started this pregnancy almost 10 lbs lighter then I did my son's. It's not pretty watching me step on the scale. I'm definitely sympathizing with you!

On a side note, you're in the Sept. issue of Parents magazine (well your book is). They are interviewing Liz Gumbinner and she lists your book as her current read. Congrats!

My first pregnancy, with twins, I gained over 75 p...

2008-08-16T08:12:00.000-07:00

My first pregnancy, with twins, I gained over 75 pounds, and that was on a strict low-sodium diet, and having the babes 6 weeks early. I was not a house, I was a duplex, as my husband informed me.
With my last pregnancy, last year, I was determined to keep it under 35 pounds. I watched what i ate. I worked out faithfully. And I gained 60 pounds anyway.
Oh, how I sympathize.

I am right there with you. By the time I was 30 w...

2008-08-16T07:25:00.000-07:00

I am right there with you. By the time I was 30 weeks I had gained 38 (!) pounds. But now that I am 38 weeks I really haven't put on anything in the last two months. I always do the most damage in the second trimester and then the baby in my womb seems to live off the reserves of my cellulite-stricken saddle bags. I hate feeling out of control too. I have always struggled with my weight and worked really hard to lose it after my first baby. I thought that with this second pregnancy I would barely gain anything, since I was slimmer to begin with, but it went the opposite. I was ravenous for the first 6 months and nothing could satisfy the black pit of hunger. Now, I've been holding steady and just living off of fruit (it's too hot here to eat much of anything else...the one and only perk of being this hugely pregnant in August).
You look fantastic, by the way. I know that no matter how many times you hear it, it's hard to believe, but really, it's true.

You do look great. You do have every right to comp...

2008-08-16T07:09:00.000-07:00

You do look great. You do have every right to complain and express your frustrations.

When I was pregnant I obsessed a little every week. I wanted to see the exact amount between the accepted amounts (a 10lb range over 40 weeks seems like a VERY NARROW range to expect women and babies of completly different builds and backgrounds to fit into) in and even steady way.

I don't remember how much I weighed at the end. I just stopped paying attention at the end.

I think that we have such a narrow line we are expected to walk. You must gain weight for your babies health, but not too much. You are big and uncomfortable and loosing control of your body, but then people are uncomfortable hearing about how that sucks!

So I agree that you look great and that you have every right to feel sorry for yourself :)

I feel ya. I've gained just about 50 lbs and still...

2008-08-15T23:47:00.000-07:00

I feel ya. I've gained just about 50 lbs and still have 5 weeks to go. Someone shoot me. I have gestational diabetes and my doc said my body is just in storage mode. Despite the restricted diet, I'm still gaining more than 1 lb a week. I'm over feeling bad about it -- but it IS getting harder and harder to do mundane tasks like bend over, etc. I've got a solid plan of action for post-partum weight loss though, and it's keeping me grounded for now.

I would tell you you look great (you do) but people tell me that and I just think they're liars at this point. ;)

I have mixed feelings about this issue. I stayed u...

2008-08-15T15:46:00.000-07:00

I have mixed feelings about this issue. I stayed under 30 thanks to a gestational-diabetes induced superdiet, which sucked all kinds of ass, and I lost it quickly. (I also started the pregnancy out about 30 pounds overweight though.)
BUT. I've gained 35 fucking pounds SINCE losing the baby weight, and my kid's 11 months old. So that's 35 pounds in 9 months -- NOT pregnant. I don't know what happened. On one hand, I agree that we are allowed to feel however we want to about weight gain and our bodies and our looks when we're pregnant. I also think it really blows that so many of us devote so much time, energy, thinking, and writing to our weight during what should be an amazing time, unfettered by weight issues (especially since most of us deal with these every other stage in our lives). I have to say, I was SO relieved when I could sort of let it all hang out and quit trying to suck in my never, ever flat stomach. Now, it just sort of hangs there and I'm reduced to wearing all versions of Spanx as I contemplate keeping this bitch or saving up the money to get it hacked off and prettied up, all while feeling incredibly guilty for wanting to spend so much money on something so shallow (and then feeling guilty for feeling guilty for something that would make me feel a lot more confident.)

Bottom line? Lots to think about and talk about it here. I don't have any friends who recently had babies or are about to, so reading and commenting here is a lifesaver, and I feel less lonely. So thanks.

You have every right to feel sorry for yourself. B...

2008-08-15T09:36:00.000-07:00

You have every right to feel sorry for yourself. But I think you look AMAZING! I can only hope that I look as good as you do whenever I'm pregnant.

I think you look great! I gained hardly any weight...

2008-08-14T22:48:00.000-07:00

I think you look great! I gained hardly any weight the second time around, but I did not look half as good as you do. I totally believe that our bodies just do what they do. I hated that feeling of not being in control though. It was really hard the first time, and the second time I just tried not to worry about it. It will be easier to lose this time. I have lost all of mine plus some just chasing 2 kids around.

And I can SO feel your pain on the husband thing. My hubby made it a goal to weigh less than me on delivery day with the first pregnancy. He was in the best shape of his life, and I weighed 2.5 lbs more than him the day I gave birth. It was the cruelest thing he has ever done to me.

Oh no he DI-in't...
Hal did not say he wasn't s...

2008-08-14T18:06:00.000-07:00

Oh no he DI-in't...
Hal did not say he wasn't sympathetic this time. He oughtta watch out, or there's gonna be a huge mob of ginormous angry pregnant ladies chasing him down with ankle-clipping strollers and swinging loaded diaper bags at him.

I'm going to have to agree with the folks that say...

2008-08-14T14:07:00.000-07:00

I'm going to have to agree with the folks that say "I hope I look that hot when I'm pregnant!" You look amazing, I don't see any reason why you wouldn't be out modeling some hip momma fashion. You'll just have to find something to distract yourself from the numbers.

I just had my 4th baby 6 months ago. My not-going-...

2008-08-14T13:03:00.000-07:00

I just had my 4th baby 6 months ago. My not-going-to-be-flat-again-without-plastic-surgery abs are bothering me WAY more than my weight.

Those suckers are mucho flabby and flipping me the bird. They aren't going back where they belong without a fight.

http://news.aol.com/health/article/pregorexia-insp...

2008-08-14T11:43:00.000-07:00

http://news.aol.com/health/article/pregorexia-inspired-by-thin-celebs/130718?icid=100214839x1207473850x1200408697

Like most of your readers, I too have a bit of a g...

2008-08-14T10:26:00.000-07:00

Like most of your readers, I too have a bit of a girl crush on you ... 33 el-beez or not, you're a beautiful person.

Kira? That was so beautifully put and so true. You...

2008-08-14T10:25:00.000-07:00

Kira? That was so beautifully put and so true. You said it far better than I. Yes! That's exactly it. Staying within the lines of acceptable is how I've always managed my weight. I'm also a size 8 (5'8) and have never killed myself to be a 6, which would be my goal weight/size but evs. All people have different standards we hold ourselves up to and being in Los Angeles is just a minor detail. The same faces and bodies that surround me surround every woman who pays attention to pop (or not so pop) culture -- which is pretty much everyone -- outside of LA and So Cal as well.

Anyway, Amen, girlfriend. Thanks for your words. I salute you.

I agree, it's about control. I'm newly pregnant wi...

2008-08-14T10:03:00.000-07:00

I agree, it's about control. I'm newly pregnant with my fourth and just this week at my first doctor's visit, the doc told me that I should stick to a 25 pound weight gain. At the most, she said. Right now I'm in a size 8, didn't think I was huge or anything, but hearing her say that sent me into a panic. 25 pounds? I remember those last months of pregnancy, when the weight just...attaches itself to you. The least I've ever gained in a pregnancy is 36 pounds - and I threw up several times a day for 20 weeks of that pregnancy.
*deep breath*
People accuse women of being shallow when we worry about our weight. But then again, we're accused of being lazy when we gain. The only way to dodge that judgement is to stay perfectly within the lines of acceptable. And pregnancy (or medication, as an earlier commenter pointed out) makes that much harder, even impossible. And that sucks.

bec. i am the one gaining your sympathy weight. ...

2008-08-14T08:39:00.000-07:00

bec. *i* am the one gaining your sympathy weight. if hal wants it back he can have it. it's just hanging around and i don't need it.

you have never looked hotter. i have never looked haggarder.

i love you, bushy muffin.

Seriously... I did't glance at any of the precedin...

2008-08-14T04:54:00.000-07:00

Seriously... I did't glance at any of the preceding 41 comments, but I bet they all express a variation o the following theme:

You ARE hot.

Smokin' hot.

(Just ask my husband)

You lost the weight once. You can do it again.

Your only problem seems to be that you're friends ...

2008-08-14T04:50:00.000-07:00

Your only problem seems to be that you're friends with models. But, honey, your friend looks a lot like you! All that weight is for the baby and YOU WILL LOSE IT. I gained 55 pounds with my last one and I lost every single pound of it (just yesterday actually) in 9 months. Seems like a long time, but in retrospect will seem like nothing.

You will miss this time when you're allowed to eat whatever you want so cut yourself some slack and enjoy it.

I wish I could look as hot as you do in your curre...

2008-08-13T22:01:00.000-07:00

I wish I could look as hot as you do in your current preggo state. And I'm not preggo!

I actually have a lot in common with Aline, and I have to say to her: YOU have something to show for your weight-gain, too, my friend--specifically, your sanity. (Which I definitely didn't get after popping out a kid--quite the opposite in fact!) :) XO

shut the fuck up indeed. you look awesome. and i...

2008-08-13T21:29:00.000-07:00

shut the fuck up indeed. you look awesome. and if you've been eating healthy as per your insistence above that you are eating salads and fish (hopefully mercury-free fish?) rather than ice cream and burritos (mmm), then I think the weight should come off easier this time around because your body will be healthier to begin with. in any case, I see no sign in any of your pics so far of the dread nose spread or bloated cheeks or any of that. maybe that all comes later, I dunno, but you look hot, even by LA standards.

I agree with the first poster, i have been looking...

2008-08-13T20:49:00.000-07:00

I agree with the first poster, i have been looking at your pictures and cursing your little basketball belly!!! i mean, cheering you on for looking so great! not being jealous at all that i didn't look anything like that or that a doctor actually had to give me an elastic strap/suspender-like contraption to hold my gigantic belly up because it was so big and heavy(i kid you not)

you look great. don't sweat it. but yeah, your friend is freaking gorgeous. curse her too!!! ~jjlibra

Oh, don't feel badly! I gained 60 lbs my first pre...

2008-08-13T20:19:00.000-07:00

Oh, don't feel badly! I gained 60 lbs my first pregnancy. I swear, it just happened! And the worst thing was that no one told me how freakin' big I was getting! Oy! In the end though, it was all about the healthy baby...which totally didn't help me deal with the extra fat and stretch marks after baby was born, but it helped a little while I was pregnant. :-) Once you have the baby you'll have new motivation to get healthy - it might mean time ALONE while you're working out!!

I gained almost 70 pounds with my first pregnancy....

2008-08-13T19:56:00.000-07:00

I gained almost 70 pounds with my first pregnancy. I'm 5'2. I was a moose. I did good my second time arounds, just shy of the 60 pound mark. Yeah. Between both pregnancies I gained more than my total weight.

And, YOU LOOK AWESOME!! SERIOUSLY!!