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photo-1 from desert plains they moved, so young so wild and alive
they were raised to believe the sea would dry before they died
across these wide oceans, smoke blacks out innocent days
so old misers can cash out in places they pray and prey




218. Wartime Lovers by: Rose Windows

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I'm posting this particular song today because it reminds me of this piece by Sayed Kashua and Etgar Keret which I have not stopped thinking about since I read it last week.

Fierce Fierceness (+ Giveaway!)

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Friday, I wrote about fierceness of a different sort, because here's the thing. My girls are STRONG. They are fierce and strong and very much themselves with personalities that are larger than their bodies and stronger than, well, me sometimes. My son is also fierce, in ways that are different than his sisters -- his fierceness is a quieter, more reserved fierceness - the kind of fierceness that I am fiercely protective of in the same way I am protective of my girls strength-in-selfness. Fiercely Protective of Fierce Fierceness is my band name.

Anyway. I think it's important for kids to know that clothes can be powerful message-senders and that we should be conscious of our fashion choices because they help us tell our story, be ourselves, have fun...  I also think that clothes can be incredibly empowering for people of all ages. Revi lights up when she puts on one of her various fancy dresses. (She wore a sequin gown apple picking this weekend and could not have been happier about it.) I happen to think that what we wear on our bodies DOES count - that we decide how we want to be perceived and that every child, when they're old enough to be aware, should be able to choose their own ensembles and recognize that there will be ramifications for doing so. (Fable learned this with her 7890 barrettes and Archer with his purple shoes and Bo with the bare feet she insisted on wearing on a walk the other day.) 

We do a lot of outings in bridesmaid dresses and costumes and the the little ones wear princess dresses to school and YOU DO YOUR THING, KIDS. 

In the meantime, it is my job to fill my kids drawers with pieces they can:

A. Wear with pride.
B. Mix and match with.
C. Feel comfortable and themselves in.
D. Empower themselves and those around them. (That's why I LOVE these shirts. LOVE LOVE LOVE.)

And that would be my segue into today's exciting giveaway. (Woo!) I'm excited to feature a fellow twin mom, Kiki Fluhr, and her kids clothing line, The Measure (All the Numbers) which boasts some of the MOST INCREDIBLE  (empowering!) pieces.

The Red Riding Hood dresses? AHHHHHH!!! 
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(Revi chose the shirt + skirt.)
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This week, thanks to Kiki and The Measure, I'm giving away one outfit of your choice from the website! To win, tell me what makes you/your child/someone you know fierce. I'll choose one winner at random next Monday, October 27th. In the meantime, you can follow The Measure on Instagram, here and shop The Measure, here. (20% off at checkout with code GIRLSGONECHILD through the end of the week!)
photo 2-6  her strong sense of self
photo 2 her fearless fire
photo 4-4 her protective power
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GGC

Picking My Battles = Backing off of theirs

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Today on Mom.me, I wrote about letting them fight... 

Not that they don't get along beautifully as well because they do. Much of the time, they do. (Archer is my co-parent in the morning on most days. Fable, too.)
But, with Tamara gone since June, I've been overwhelmed, with more to do and less patience to do it. If, "MOM! I NEED YOU!" was a drinking game, I would be dead with alcohol poisoning by 6:12 am. And then I would re-die every fifteen minutes forever. 
Which is fine. I want to be there for them. I LOVE BEING THERE FOR THEM! But sometimes... well... 
I lose it. They lose it and then I lose it and suddenly we're all just very, very, extremely, very lost...
You can read the rest of the column in its entirety, here.
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Godspeed, mamas.

GGC

"Listen to my words..."

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Today's post is a throwback to a few months ago. I thought I accidentally deleted this gem but, no! I found it safe and sound on a hard drive and it's one of my favorite moments caught on camera of all time:


FYI: I totally get the whole LOOK AT ME! LISTEN TO MY WORDS!" thing because, even though Revi is "looking" right at Bo and totally "listening" to her word... maybe she isn't, you know? Preschool-aged twins are not unlike married couples trying to work out their issues and I know I've written about this before, and I'm sure I will again, (tomorrow's post is about siblings working out their issues) but it's fascinating to me and this video makes me laugh/cry/ponder the "talker/listener" dynamic and which side I fall into...
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...In my work, I am the talker, clearly. But at home, I'm definitely more of the listener. But maybe I'm not really listening, you know? Maybe that's why everyone is like, "MOM! MOM! LISTEN TO ME! LOOK AT MY EYES" and in my head, I'm like, "I am listening! I am looking at your eyes! I'm right here!" But I'm also not. Because I'm 78,000 other places, too. 
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GGC

Eat Well: Trick Their Treats

The following post is sponsored by Fresh & Easy. Thanks, Fresh & Easy!
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So, this post is kind of a follow up to my mom's post last week which, whoa, right? Anyway, I know how hard it is to come up with "treat" ideas while trying to cut sugar out of a child's diet so I wanted to share a few of my "Hacks of Life" in today's post as they pertain to sugar, specifically, what we have done to replace the usual "cookies after dinner" for not only Bo, but all four kids, because while Fable and Archer are allowed the occasional after dinner treat, we have also been able to substitute with some "less treaty treats" listed below, or as I call them, "treats that trick,"

All of these do not take much prep, by the way. I am not a baker and while I would love to someday become better at making, for example, sugar free peanut butter cookies, I just... it's not me. I am down with non-recipe recipes and that goes for quick + low maintenance after dinner (or lunch) treats. 

1. "Ice Cream"
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My mother-in-law recently bought us these frozen pop maker monster things that are amazing and we've been filling them with coconut, almond, soy milk and frozen berries and serving them after lunch on a hot day. 
Bo and Revi LOVE these and get so excited when I'm like, "ice cream time!" and then they go outside and eat their "ice cream" and I rub my hands together and cackle because YOU HAVE BEEN PUNKED, MISS! You are eating frozen "milk" that has zero grams of sugar!!! HIGH FIVE!

2. Fancy Popcorn
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- Air-pop popcorn.
- Cover in coconut oil, cinnamon & all spice. 
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ED: This is my kids' favorite treat. We do this on weekends during movie night and they all go nuts. It tastes as good as 7897897 cookies but, once again, no sugar. BAM! 
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3. Berry Awesome Sundae(s)
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All you need is some frozen berries and a little bit of whipped cream on top (whipped cream has less than 1 gram of sugar per serving) and BAM! Treat o'clock. 

ED: You can do this with fresh fruit, too, of course, but frozen berries are year-round, cheaper and feel more dessert-y than actual fresh fruit. At least to my kids. 
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4. Nut Butter Toasties*:
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-  Toast a piece of bread (BE SURE TO CHECK THE LABEL! Many breads are loaded with sugar! Gross!)

- Spread a bit of Coconut oil on the toast.

- Use a cookie cutter to cut bread into cookie shapes. 
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- Spread peanut butter, almond, OR, if you're nut free, I found this amazing seed butter (sunflower, sesame and flax) called superbutter at our local Fresh & Easy.
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Unfortunately, the one I picked up has some added sugar (3 grams per 2 tbsp serving) but it's delicious and, for those with nut allergies, a GREAT alternative. 
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5. Strawberry Soup 

(Bo made this one up after she pulled all of her cereal out of her bowl and just ate the strawberries and milk instead.)

- Cut up some strawberries

- Pour some soy/almond/coconut milk (cow milk is full of sugar) over the strawberries

- Eat with soup spoons in special, fancy bowls. (I find that presentation makes a HUGE difference. Buy a few "fancy" plates and "bowls" to dress up, what may appear to be... something that isn't very treat-y. Special glasses for water, special plates for healthy treats, special bowls for... fruit soup.)

6. Peanut Butter covered almonds 

This was Fable's idea and when I told her I was writing this post, she asked if I could include her "tricky treat" so I am including it now, and these, according to Fable, are the directions.

1. Take some almonds.

2. Dip them in peanut butter.

3. Eat them up. 

4. "Yum."

So, there you have it. Those are 6 "treats" that you can probably prepare with ingredients already in your pantry. And they're healthy. But also very treat-like. And I would LOVE to hear from you guys out there about what you feed your kids with sugar sensitivity to keep them sane and safe. I'd also love to hear how you navigate Halloween... ahem... we let the kids have ONE treat during the trick-or-treat process and then we have them trade in all their candy for a "toy" they get to pick at our favorite local toy store. 

And then Hal brings all the Halloween candy to work which I kind of feel guilty about because UGH. As for Halloween candy, we no longer buy it for trick-or-treaters. We buy pencils instead. And erasers. And stickers. Which, I think is way more fun, personally. I mean... can you imagine trick or treating for stickers instead of... snickers? WAY cooler. 

Anyway...  Sugar hacks! Cooking hacks! Kid-friendly eating hacks! I'm dying to hear from you guys on this because I'm sure your ideas are epic and amazing. Per usual. Thanks in advance!

* also a great band name 

GGC

Thanks again to Fresh & Easy for sponsoring this post! Be sure to check out Fresh & Easy's "Hacks of Life" Pinterest board.  It's filled with a TON of genius cooking hacks like this And while you're at it, you can enter their Holiday Sweepstakes to win $150 in groceries or $300 Cash. 
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