orchid c/o Nana, shirt and pants c/o "floral box" for Fall
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Since my first Wittlebee post a few months back, we've received three more boxes of awesome. Here are their stories:
Box #1: Styled by Fable
The picks (in the above box) were Wittlebee's doing but I may have mentioned in a style profile or two that tutus are always in season at casa de GGC (nudge, nudge) and sure enough: BAM:
A headband? Amaze. A shirt that could also be worn like a dress? Perfection. Leggings to layer? I mean... do you know my kid, Bee to the Wittle, or am I just really great at style profile quizzes thanks to all those years spent reading Seventeen Magazine with my friends?
Regardless, Fable went right to work, styling what would soon replace the outfit she had on.
One of my favorite photos of Fable (and one I've posted here before) is this, which I took of her newly styled creation. All pieces I would have never thought to put together. All pieces that look PERFECTLY FABLE AMAZING on.
*** Box #2:Essentials + Ensemble
When I filled out the Wittlebee style profile for the twins, I asked for more essentials. Onesies, leggings, long-sleeved tops. We're good on dresses thanks to Fable's hand-me-downs and our trade-ins at the local consignment shop. (When the twins outgrow their clothes I trade them all in for new and gently used clothes and so on... It's worked out really great so far for dresses and cute little outfits but essentials aren't usually for sale/trade on consignment.) So! Wittlebee heeded my call and sent out a box of onesies and leggings:
Revi + her new leggings and AA onesie, leotard style.
Bo + her new (organic) bear onesie.
Wittlebee also included this sassy two-piece number which fits Bo perfectly and soon enough, will fit Revi as well. (Bo has four pounds and half an inch on her sister.)
Last week our newest box arrived with an outfit for each girl. (Archer's too big for Wittlebee's service, hence the lack of boy clothes in the mix, here.)
Fable wore her new dress and leggings (above) to school the other day and Bo and Revi rocked their new tops and leggings earlier this week:
Oh hello, Fall.
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Once again Wittlebee's offering $15 off coupons for first-time buyers/subscribers (you can cancel at any time!) with code GGC1. (Offer expires Oct 31st.) I also have a free box to give away, today. Just leave your comment below with your "style profile" a la Wittlebee style quiz action. Or, if you're not in the mood to take a quiz right now, you can just leave a comment and that's okay, too. I'll choose a winner via disqus comment randomizer next Friday, Oct. 5th. Don't forget to leave your contact info and good luck!
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Updated: Congrats to disqus randomizer winner, Liz! And thanks to all who participated!
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GIRL'S GONE CHILD
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Monday, September 24, 2012
This morning before school drop-off, Fable and I shopped for the invitations and party favors for her fourth birthday. She knew exactly what she wanted, as she so often does, and spent the drive home with her hands overflowing with everything. The invitations and the stickers for the invitations and the cups and the candles and the special candle and the plates and the plastic diamond rings for the goodie bags. She held everything in her hands as we seat-danced to Pink's Try (my new favorite song EVER. This shit is an ANTHEM!) and it was a moment, you know? One of those, "who is this person with her hands full of candles and her mouth full of lyrics that are all wrong and her one shoe that fell off and 'turn up the music, Mom, dance with me!'" moments.
Fable never had a terrible twos. Since birth she has been a complete joy, but about a month back, something changed. Her love for putting together outfits became an obsession of five costume changes before school. Her love of all foods turned into I WILL ONLY EAT THE PEACH WITHOUT THE MARKINGS ON IT! Her sweetness and light turned into sweetness and light and (daily) tantrums which I understand is part of the package. Time makes you bolder. Children get older. I'm getting older too blah blah. Still. Not an easy phase to navigate when you're a first-timer.
Which I am.
Archer to this day has never talked back. He regularly reminds me not to give him, for example, dessert because "you took away my dessert privileges, tonight, remember?"
Archer is a by the book, rule person. It's clockwork to him. He messes up. We call him on it. He immediately recognizes what he's done and sends himself to his room. He's always been that kid. He's always adhered to the rules, wanting desperately to do right by them.
Fable, on the other hand, is more like me, and Hal, and most human beings. She hates being wrong. She wants it her way.
Welcome to life, my girl. Bienvenidos.
The other day after a TWO hour battle of wills over her HAVING TO WEAR HER BALLET OUTFIT TO SCHOOL OR ELSE SHE WOULD DIE! and me refusing to let her because IT'S NOT FAIR FOR YOUR TEACHERS TO HELP YOU GET IN AND OUT OF YOUR LEOTARD EVERY TIME YOU GO TO THE BATHROOM, she finally gave in and put on a dress. With leggings and a skirt over them and forty necklaces.
And then we sat down together to discuss without yelling (me) and kicking the wall (her).
"Sometimes my heart feels messy," she said.
So we discussed the best course of action to clean that heart of hers up, or at the very least, try...
More sleep? Deciding on outfits the day before? Having some special mommy Fable alone time?
Check, check and check.
Because even though Fable isn't technically a middle child and although she's never acted jealous or resentful of her sisters, it must be tough for her sometimes. Just like it's tough for me and for Hal, it's tough for her. Especially now that her baby sisters are walking and pulling and getting into her stuff. Perhaps her sudden defense has to do with an innate NEED to demand power in a house where quiet voices do not carry. Or maybe this is just what happens now.
Maybe this is her (and our) growing pain. Strong will? She has it. But the stronger will is mine. The stronger will will always be mine. One of the plus sides of being eternally thirteen. I will win the battle. Sorry, kids.
Anyway. We had a kind of breakthrough the other day and even though we aren't out of the woods yet a la "challenging almost fours," I feel kind of relieved to be dealing with the first of what I assume will be MANY conflicts with her now. Like we've gone through the first few years with her on a cloud and BAM, reality. And I felt sideswiped by it, lets be clear. But I feel almost closer to her now than I ever have. Because with every conflict and tantrum and battle of wills... something happens. A new closeness.
And I think of my own mother and our formerly tumultuous relationship. I think of all the times I told her I hated her and how in the end we'd both cry and better understand each other's "messy" hearts. I think of all the people who have said in passing, "You think it's hard now? Just wait until you have three teenage daughters." I think of all of the things I should be afraid of in Fable and realize I'm not.
I'm not afraid of the teen years and I'm not afraid of now. Some days are hard and that's never going to change. Some days Fable will hate me, say she's sorry, slam her door. Some days I will, too. Some days she'll mean all of those terrible things she's going to say. I said them, too. And I meant every word. In the moment, I meant every word.
...Until I realized I didn't. And then I was sorry.
The other night for the first time Fable called me "stupid" and then she stopped and immediately took it back. She had never said anything like that before and it shocked her. She immediately stopped crying and sat down.
And then I sat down. I was angry and hurt and told her in a very yelly way that she'd be losing her privileges for the next two days and instead of fighting me, she nodded her head.
"Okay," she said.
And then, finally: "I'm sorry, Mama."
She knew she was wrong. She knew she was busted. She was sorry.
And all at once, I remembered. I remembered being Fable and my mom being me and how it felt to hate her.
I remembered calling my mother stupid when I was little and a bitch when I was big and how every time the words left my mouth, they stung. They bled. They made me feel like I was going to be sick.
And then my mom would cry and I would cry and in the end we'd both win the fight because every conflict led to some kind of resolve. Or at the very least, a better understanding of why there was a mess and how best to clean it up. An opening to squeeze through or at the very least pick at.
I told Fable it was okay and that I forgave her and then she did this thing she does when she's sorry and she pulls on her lower lip with her hand and looks away, except this time she looked at me and I looked back at her and something changed.
I don't know what, but something.
The next day she cried when I reminded her why she couldn't watch TV. She cried and she screamed and she cried but eventually she gave in, stopped crying.
And then she was fine. She spent the rest of the afternoon drawing and being fine.
In the words of Fable's misquoted Pink lyrics (that we seat-danced to this morning in the car) just because it turns doesn't mean you're in the sky.
Maybe it's because she's my kid, but I knew exactly what she meant.
Revi + her new leggings and AA onesie, leotard style.
Bo + her new (organic) bear onesie.
Fable wore her new dress and leggings (above) to school the other day and Bo and Revi rocked their new tops and leggings earlier this week:
Oh hello, Fall. 
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