You want the answers to all of life's tough questions? Ask your kids. They will answer from a place of "fairness" more than any adult ever will.
Anyway. We had this conversation and then, a couple days later, The Contender was on TV and I watched it and was thinking, "wow, this is a pretty great movie," right up until the ending when, after two hours of feeling empowered by
Basically, the filmmakers took a great movie and then killed it with that one line. Why? Because equal rights and treatment of women isn't FOR OUR DAUGHTERS, but for EVERYONE. Because MEN and "our sons" ALSO benefit from equal rights. Because when you spend two hours telling the story of a politician who happens to be a woman and then make it all about her being a woman who also happens to be a politician you COMPLETELY undermine the entire point of your film.
Anyway, all this is to say that the last name debate is something I think is extremely important to have, no matter what choice is made on any side. Everyone is right to do what is right for them. That is what it means to be pro-choice. That is what it means to be pro-human. That is what it means to be feminist and humanist and fair.
The world is changing and I feel incredibly lucky to be raising children during this time. These conversations aren't just for our daughters but our sons, too.
Thank you, again, for your words and your stories. Much love and BRB.