"You can be anything you want to be" and other lies we tell our children

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Good tidings and Happy Halloween! This week on Mom.me I wrote about how Bo wanted to be "a bathroom" for Halloween but I had to tell her, "no" because I am a terrible person who occasionally has to shatter the dreams of her children. 

Bo still hasn't settled on a costume for tonight, although she decided this morning, at 6:55am, that she wanted to wear the spider costume she refused to wear last year to school. And THEN she wanted to be a "spider riding a bike" and tried to bring her bike with her into the car which, No. Sorry, sister. And then we got to school and she's like, "I think I want to be a dragon, now. Or Elsa. Or The Three Amigos." 

(Two nights ago Bo insisted on sleeping in the Three Amigos costume I found at a thrift store a few weeks back. Something tells me it won't make the cut for tonight's outing, however. Hey, there's always Brian Krakow.)
Angela, Jordan & Brian
In the meantime, I will leave you with this and wish you all well on tonight's tricks and treats. 

Halloween, much like life, isn’t about being whatever we want to be, but understanding that while we can be MOST anything we want to be, there will always be things we cannot be, places we cannot reach, bathroom costumes we cannot build ... and that’s OK, too.

Rules are made to be broken, of course. But limitations are an important thing to communicate as well. For me, this is one of the hardest parts of parenting because, with all my heart, I want my kids to be able to be 'bathrooms for Halloween' if that’s what makes them happy.

photo-1 You can read more of this week's column, here.


Happy Halloween!