have always been in awe of my brother - like standing on one planet looking up at at another. I have only ever been able to see him from afar in the way very different people who love each are able to see each other. David can do it all well. People say that but with David it's actually true. One day he picked up the guitar and killed it. He writes with wisdom and profundity and can hike a thousand miles uphill. He can dance and he can sing and he can cook and he can brew his own (gluten-free) beer and he can create and solve equations as long as this room. And he does all of those things beautifully. He is humble and gentle and kind. He's loyal (and has always stuck up for me, here, and everywhere else). He is stubborn and funny and wonderful. He's truly the greatest.
And holy shit, did he ever find her.
"What? Why! Don't be! It's all good."
"If if does, we'll use the barn, we don't mind."
...David and I went to two different high schools, went in opposite directions with our careers and our lives up to this point, but being present at his wedding made me feel, for the first time, perhaps, that we were somewhere... similar? Not that I am an authority on marriage by any means, but I've been cruising this highway for a while and now, it's like, there he is. HONK HONK! WE'RE BOTH ON THE SAME ROAD, NOW!
Our sister played flute as my parents walked David down the aisle, followed by Alyssa arm and arm with her mom and dad.
And after they exchanged vows and rings and "I do"s, they danced back up the aisle to When You Love Somebody by Fruit Bats.
"You introduced me to that band, remember?" my brother said to me later. "You burned me a copy of all their songs one year..."
"You totally did."
It sounds stupid, perhaps, but in that moment I felt like I had a hand in something... I wasn't able to introduce my brother to much in the way of life lessons but the one thing we always had, together, was music. The one thing we were able to relate to were songs...
I said this during dinner (my toast was a mess. I was hysterical and totally insane) but I want to say it, again, here -- if I were to hand select one woman out of the 781792873981738917 women in the world to be with my brother, it would be Alyssa. She's quite possibly the kindest person to ever exist on this earth and I can't believe how lucky we are to have her as our sister, daughter, aunt... We fully won the lottery with this one.
My cousin, Erica, who is a documentary filmmaker, made this film for David and Alyssa. (Erica was also roommates with Alyssa in Chile while studying abroad and Alyssa was actually at Erica's wedding and David and she never met. They met years later, however, in Boston and made the connection later. Crazy, right? Total Kismet.) Anyway... Erica, our cousin and Alyssa's friend, made a documentary about David and Alyssa's wedding/family/love story and it's amazing.
here in this video and it's beautiful and I've watched it now 8989789 times and all of the songs in the background are my brother's songs (I told you he was talented) and just... yeah. The film is pretty long (40 minutes) so I'm going to link to it here for those interested.
Here's a shorter ten minute version that's pretty wonderful, too:
"Mighty David has struck gold."