Ed: If you're not familiar, the following post/momversation ep is in regards to this. And this. And this. Okay then...
I know many of you skip the videos when I post them but I encourage you to watch this one if only to hear what Alice says. I wish her entire statement had been included in this video because it was so eloquently put. She's one perceptive cookie, that Alice Bradley. I love her a lot.
Although I understand that women in positions of power and celebrity should watch what they say, they also deserve to be respected for their willingness to speak candidly and honestly about insecurities, fears and yes, body issues. We are far too easily offended by people's personal matters and far too quick to judge and criticize each other's choices. Myself included, I will not lie.
Before I was pregnant I was consumed with the fear that childbirth would make it impossible for me to ever be sexy/sexual/sexually active again. I was paralyzed with fear that my vaginal-situation would stretch beyond recognition and I would spend the remainder of my sexually active life unable to enjoy sex and very sad. Many a pregnancy nightmare I spent dragging my girly bits all around town c/o a modified jock-strap for postpartum 'ginas.
It was awful but I felt silly talking about my fears openly. Instead? I spent months (quietly) freaked the fuck out.
If someone were to have interviewed me pre-pregnancy or even DURING pregnancy, more than likely I would have said far more offensive things re: motherhood/body/life change than Jillian did. I don't think I'm the only one. Because HELLO!?? It's fucking scary! For most of us it's terrifying! And yet? A woman's fear of motherhood and childbirth, body changes/life changes is something, even today, we must whisper about amongst friends at the risk of being blasted by peers, or worse; friends.
Truth be told, I wish more women had the balls (labias? labi-i?) to speak candidly about their insecurities no matter how seemingly bone-headed and neurotic. Because, let's face it! We're all kind of bone-headed and neurotic sometimes! Sometimes even MORE than sometimes. Because, duh! We're emotional humans who laugh, cry and occasionally feel and say disagreeable things! Far more interesting than being a plant, I'd say.
And no, my vag doesn't need a jock strap after two kids. However, I did pee my leggings mid-leap on Archer's Birthday Bouncer:
...So there is that.